Feelings are mostly irrational and not amenable to logical explanation. However, although they say “you cannot order your heart”, one should not forget about the rationality or the outright unjustification of the choice.
I was once a strange, nameless toy
At the very beginning of the relationship, you need to clearly learn that it will not work to mold something you want from the chosen one. Neither reeducate nor criticize. And to give individuality, which it seems not to him, is generally ridiculous. Therefore, it is important to fall in love not with an invented ideal, a kind of standard from the future, but a completely real person. There is a very simple and wise thought “the horse should be in the apples, not the prince”. At the same time, it is important to remember that there is both good and bad in a person. What matters more.
I look at you like in a mirror
Whatever is said about the magnetism of antipodes, a girl and a guy should have points of contact. Common interests, friends, hobbies, views - it doesn't matter. Otherwise, life will turn into existence in parallel worlds. If a young man only knows how to talk about himself, but not listen, if it is impossible to approach him, lean against him and complain that his shoes are tight, if he does not penetrate and pat on the head, he will not become that notorious stone wall. The girl will drive a nail herself if necessary, and she will earn money, and even spend it wisely. But the feeling of support and understanding from a loved one is worth a lot.
When evaluating a guy you like, it will not be superfluous to find out his attitude towards mom. It is trite, but this is a reflection of his manner of communication with the rest of the fair sex. The guy should respect and appreciate the girl. Be courteous, polite, and trust in relationships.
If a guy knows how to admit mistakes or that he doesn't know something, if he knows how to accept help, that's great. Of course, perseverance and commitment to independence is great. But not reckless.
No matter how jubilant the emancipated Europeans may be, the presence of a man's opinion, the feeling that he is not led and can lead, is priceless. If a guy only absorbs, absorbs with a sponge, but does not give anything in return and only blindly agrees to someone's ideas, not bothering himself with imagination and inventing his own, it is worth thinking "what will he give the children later, how will he cope with his infantilism?"
Another important property is ease of lifting. With an inveterate couch potato, there may be a feeling of a cage pressing against four walls. And if he begins to be jealous of a girl for her trips somewhere alone, it’s quite a disaster. Therefore, the love of travel and the craving for recognition and novelty (without fanaticism) are quite important qualities.
Mind, intelligence, erudition. If all this is in a guy, he will never be ashamed. If all this is combined with good taste, a sense of style and a vision of beauty, then, as they say, “wrap it up, I take it!”.
Of course, each girl has her own ideals and criteria, which the chosen one must certainly have. Do not forget only that sometimes they come with disadvantages.
