A relationship between two loving people always implies a logical development. Of course, by mutual agreement, they develop in different ways, but how often you want everything to be simple and clear, like two and two and, of course, live happily ever after. And just as much I don't want to make a mistake, to be disappointed in a loved one. What to do when doubts visit - does a man love? Is it worth paying attention to the inner voice - is it a woman's intuition or increased anxiety, fear of making a mistake?
Instructions
Step 1
Have a conversation. The best way to find out each other's intentions is to discuss together, openly, all the nuances of your relationship. And in general, talk more with each other about goals, values, opinions. This does not mean that you need to ask head-on, “Will you marry me?”, “Do you love me?”, Because you can be answered with what you want to hear. Just be interested in the person, his thoughts, conclusions, experiences. Given the natural stinginess of the expression of emotions and words in some men, your suspicions may be unfounded.
Step 2
Watch. If the relationship is not yet so open, froze at one stage, or there is a suspicion that a loved one is playing you. Even if everything is fine, and you are simply gnawed by curiosity - whether the man loves. This does not mean arranging surveillance, detectives or suspiciously checking all incoming calls and SMS. But you can remotely observe the behavior of your beloved, his eyes, gestures, facial expressions, the manner of speaking with you. As psychologists say, if you see one thing, hear another, and with your intuition you feel the third, it means that you are being "ruined". It is this feeling of discord, misunderstanding, confusion in a woman's soul that arises for a reason and causes uncontrollable outbursts of emotions. Perhaps, before intimacy with you, he shows an active interest, and after that he fades away, becomes cold, irritable. Although the irritation can still be hidden, but an uninteresting look to the side, a closed pose (crossed on the chest or clasped hands), and even the feet pointing towards the exit are perceptible and speak volumes.
Step 3
Analyze. Cast aside for a while all feelings, resentments, experiences, fears that overshadow the mind. Imagine that you are as cold and rational as ever. Be bold and think about the following questions. How often does a man say he loves you? After all, men can say what a woman wants to hear. Does the man say why he loves you? You can fall in love with a smile, laughter, eccentricity. But you can only love the whole partner - completely, with advantages and disadvantages. Does he show this attitude towards you?
Step 4
Think about how often you talk about plans for the future, or is this a closed topic? Initiate a conversation on this topic yourself, if the level of your relationship allows. Of course, on the second day of dating it is inappropriate to talk about it, but if you have been together for more than a year, and the man refers to the fact that you need to take a closer look at each other and talk about it too early, then you should think about it.
Step 5
Think about how often you fight. Of course, quarrels excite relationships, diversify emotions, and many would be bored without them. But, you must admit, hardly anyone can stand such a "roller coaster" all their lives. And the reasons for quarrels can be different, either objective, such as a mismatch of views (which, after all, can be brought to a common denominator), or biased - simple nit-picking, irritation over trifles.
Step 6
Analyze how your partner is going through at least a short separation. Is a loved one elated with freedom, rest, fun without his half? Or he often calls you, worries about you, misses and wants to meet. Anyway, how active is a man in your relationship?
Step 7
Finally, consider what your loved one calls you. It's hard to imagine a loving couple without cute traditions of pet names. But, nevertheless, the frequent "zaya", "fish", "kitty" are rather impersonal, they can be called anyone, but calling each other by name, or affectionate derivatives of the name, lovers emphasize respect for each other's personality, recognition of individuality each other.
