Personal hostility is a psychological process that takes place between individuals in groups of people, society, at school, at work. Its presence leads to conflicts and quarrels. If a person is disliked, it interferes with study, work, sleep and disrupts the regime of life in general. Therefore, you need to learn to notice and determine in time whether the other person is showing personal dislike for you.
First signs
A person begins to avoid communication, reduces it to a minimum. If he is near the object of his dislike, then he experiences nervousness and discomfort. Other people think that he feels disgust for a certain person.
Quite often, personal hostility is found between colleagues. In this case, it has a complex mechanism. Personal animosity interferes with the normal work of people, as they cannot communicate with each other.
This psychological process brings discomfort not only to the person himself, but also to his opponent. Personal dislike can appear even in those groups that consist of honest, good and non-lazy people.
What is it, personal dislike?
This psychological process is divided into several categories:
1. Asymmetrical personal dislike, when one person treats another badly, and that, in turn, is good.
2. Mutual personal dislike, when both people know they dislike each other.
3. Complicated personal dislike. One person takes offense at the other, thinking that he is experiencing negative emotions towards him. In fact, both treat each other well, but only one of them believes that the other is showing dislike.
How to recognize?
Consciousness may not always immediately recognize personal dislike. Being under its influence, a person is not able to think objectively. Personal hostility is manifested in such a way that the opponent's judgments, statements and actions are perceived by a person as hostile. In this case, an ordinary smile can be recognized as a mockery or a grin.
Personal dislike is reinforced by communication on social media and by email. A common greeting with an exclamation mark at the end can be recognized as a complaint by a recipient with personal dislike. Therefore, communication by various means of communication between such people should be excluded.
These are complex mechanisms of personal hostility, knowing which you can recognize and exclude it in time. Thus, it will help to extinguish the conflict in the team.
Why does personal dislike appear?
One of the reasons for the emergence of this mechanism of the psyche is unspoken claims. The man did not like what his opponent did, but because of his shyness, he did not tell him about it. The colleague did the wrong thing again. He was again not informed of this. Thus, each time the claims will only accumulate, which will lead to the appearance of personal hostility.
Hearing from someone that someone has spoken badly about him, the person becomes tense. In this case, the wrong storytelling message can lead to pitting one person against another. Gossip will be to blame.
The insult can also lead to personal animosity. So, one person may not even suspect that he has offended an opponent in some way.
Personal enmity can also arise from unjustified illusions. This happens when one person thinks another is perfect. At one point, the ideal goes wrong. The person begins to think that the opponent is not pretending to be who he really is. This is how dislike is formed.
If one person does not fulfill his promise, then the other does not understand the reasons for this, but immediately considers him bad. This is a breeding ground for personal animosity.
If a person places hopes on an opponent, but he does not justify them, then this leads to the emergence of personal hostility. The thing is that unspoken claims accumulate, and this leads to such a state. The opponent may not be bad, it is just that the other person has too high demands on him.
People with ambitions and complex personality types may start to compete with each other. Personal enmity can develop on this basis.
