Many parents are concerned about the questions: how to build a relationship with a child, how not to make mistakes that can turn into serious problems? Understanding child psychology helps to establish good contact with the child and prevents difficulties in communicating with adolescents and adults.
Instructions
Step 1
Pay attention to your child! Of course, we adults have so many necessary and important things to do. But do not bring the situation to the point that there is no time for the child. This has a very negative effect on the child's psyche. Negative emotions will be deposited in the subconscious and in the future they will definitely remind of themselves.
Step 2
Trust. The child constantly hears: "no", "quieter!", "Slow down!" Why? Because he is too small and does not understand much. And thus we program his life: "do not believe the world, do not live to the fullest." How often do we say the phrase: "Do not bother, I will do it myself." But this is also a hidden, programming, message: “I doubt you!”. Better to say: "I believe you, I am convinced that you can." Treat your child with respect and trust. Help him learn something, master something, get to know the world.
Step 3
Independence. Mothers complain: children take up all our time. Why? Because many parents control every step of their children, interfering with everything. Better not to disturb your child. He is enthusiastically busy with something, it is interesting and important for him! Remember your feelings when you are torn away from an interesting and important business. So give him more freedom. It is good for him, and you have time to rest.
Step 4
Help. Of course, you need to help. But what do you mean by the word "help"? Remember: to help is to fulfill a request. And if the child does not ask, then help is not needed. A child is assembling a typewriter, but it just doesn't work out. Mom is tired of looking at this, she quickly folds the structure, and the baby angrily breaks it and starts assembling it again. Before providing assistance, ask if your participation is necessary.
Step 5
Do not talk to your child from top to bottom. If you want to talk, especially on a serious topic, sit down, bend over so that you are on the same level, look into the eyes of the baby.
Step 6
Do not criticize your child, do not make claims to him. If he did something wrong, explain what exactly, tell about the consequences of the misconduct. Best practice: Praise the kids for small victories, for work done on their own, etc. But everything is good in moderation.
Step 7
Talk to your child about your feelings. Even if it's negative emotions. The kid will feel your condition in your eyes, gestures, posture. If you need to point out that the child is wrong about something, do not say the phrases: “You are wrong!”, “You are doing it on purpose, out of spite”, etc. Better share your feelings about what happened and explain why they arose.
Step 8
And most importantly - see through the prism of your expectations of a real child and a separate person, let him be himself and just love him.
