Difficulty in the relationship between daughter-in-law and mother-in-law is a fairly common problem in most married couples. Efforts are needed to restructure moments of confrontation into productive family dialogue. Women should understand that clarifying the relationship and the position of the rivals will not lead to a positive result, but contribute to a more tense family environment.
Instructions
Step 1
Most often, jealousy and love for the same man plays a role in the tension in the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, only in the first case it is the son, in the second - the husband. For the mother-in-law, the fact that at any moment the son can meet a woman who can replace and become the main one in his life, instead of her, brings conflicting emotions. Especially hard is the marriage of a son by the mother who raised him alone, putting her soul and all available means into the process of his becoming as a man. The woman realizes that now other values have appeared in her son's life, new people, a different life. Many mothers-in-law are terrified of the day when adult children enter a separate life from her.
Step 2
The daughter-in-law for the mother-in-law is actually a rival, claiming her legal territory and a person dearer than whom the mother simply does not. Mutual clarification of relations inflames the atmosphere in the family, thereby causing irreparable harm to the psyche of all participants in the conflict. In order to bring relations on a peaceful track and stop seeing each other as enemies, you need to ask yourself the question: "What is more important for me: daily scandals or the opportunity to learn to negotiate?" You need to understand that the tension in family relationships leads to depression, stress, as well as many mental disorders and diseases. It is much better to once again listen to each other's claims, and try to cope with them together. A daughter-in-law should show indulgence and respect for her husband's mother, accepting the fact that rivalry between loved ones is unacceptable.
Step 3
If the mother-in-law has a constant habit of interfering in the affairs of the family, explain to her that you are a separate unit of society and if you need advice, you will definitely turn to her. Show your interest in keeping your family happy. Many mothers-in-law like to lecture their young, inept daughters-in-law with various advice, moralizing, considering it their direct duty. In this case, without unnecessary quarrels and emotions, talk to your mother-in-law, saying that you really appreciate her care and help, but you will act according to your convictions. Do not try to perceive the advice of the mother-in-law as another criticism in your address, in reality it may turn out to be completely different, and in this way the woman just wanted to express her concern and participation.
Step 4
In a conflict with a mother-in-law, do not interfere with a man in women's squabbles. By fencing him off from participating in the conflict, you will show your best side. Many women try to involve a man, involving him in female confrontation - this is unacceptable, since the choice between two beloved women: mother and wife is not entirely correct. An intelligent woman, whether she is a wife or mother-in-law, will never look for a third person to resolve a conflict situation, but will sort it out by talking on her own. Know how to listen to each other, appreciate the help provided by the mother-in-law, but never become an enemy force aimed at destroying the family
