Life sometimes gives people such surprises that they could not even think of. There are often cases when families were destroyed, and the child had to live not with his own father or mother, but with his stepfather or stepmother.
Men and their features
Men are fickle creatures. This is a truth that is difficult to argue with. Someone is outraged by this, someone is annoyed, someone is simply put up with it. What to do in a situation when your own father started a second family for himself or he had a mistress, and you found out about it? It is one thing to argue abstractly on this topic, then it is easy to give advice, and remain (in accordance with these advice) calm, and take the current situation for granted, which cannot be changed and to which one can only adapt. Of course, it's easy to reason, you say, if the situation is abstract. Well, what if you and your own father turned out to be one of the heroines of this life play
Try to find a way out of this situation and even establish a good relationship with this still unknown woman.
Homeless woman - what is she?
So, you know for sure that your dad does not go to meetings in the evenings and spends time not with your mom, but with another woman. And your mother is also aware of the events, but she calmly and wisely judged that it turned out the way it happened, the past cannot be returned, and released her husband "to freedom." But it's hard for you. You are used to the fact that your parents are always together, you are experiencing a breakup. It seems to you that it is she, the homewrecker, who is to blame for everything. Stop wait! This may not be the case. Well, or not quite so. And she did not want to destroy the family. It happened. And she treats you not at all like a potential stepmother from a fairy tale about Cinderella, but quite peacefully and friendly. So why immediately take hostility to a person who does not want to hurt you at all
After all, this person became your father's family, and you probably love your father.
Can you take the first step in establishing friendships yourself? Sure. Offer her (through her father) to meet and talk somewhere. You can have coffee and cake together in the cafe. Tell her that you are not angry with her, that you are an adult and understand everything. If she's almost your age, try looking at her as a friend. After all, it is not easy for her now, she feels like a destroyer of the family hearth. Perhaps you have common interests, and you can help each other. And if she is much older, consider that you have an aunt (albeit not a native one), to whom you can come for advice in cases when not everything can be told to the mother. In general, do not worry and do not complicate the situation, it is not easy now. Try to understand another person and know: how you treat people, so they will treat you, because life is still long ahead!
