A relationship that is about to collapse can be recognized by a number of signs. Psychologists say that in such cases, couples do certain things. This indicates that people have become too "cramped" in such a union.
If there is no harmony in a relationship, then they are doomed. They have no future. Sometimes it is difficult to understand whether it will be possible to keep the union. But in reality, all couples who are doomed to break up do the same things. If even a couple of items from the list match, you need to prepare for the worst or do something to prevent a break.
Control each other
When there is no confidence in yourself or in your partner, one-sided or mutual control begins in the relationship. Communication is becoming more and more intense. Going out to chat with friends or just being alone is already a big problem. Partners begin to harass each other with "test" calls, questioning, and sometimes surveillance. Such a relationship is doomed. Nobody will tolerate it. In this case, parting will benefit both. The sooner this happens, the better. If you tighten it too much, you can earn neurosis, and then shudder for a long time from sudden calls.
Look away
During the period of love, people try to look each other in the eyes as often as possible. If there is a serious crisis in the relationship, partners look away. The distance between them increases. The desire to be as close to a person as possible, to take his hand disappears. All these signs indicate that the union has exhausted itself, the partners became not interested in each other.
Flirting on the side
Non-committal flirting with a work colleague does not mean anything yet. But when flirting begins to take a very long time, it becomes less easy, most likely, the current relationship has become obsolete. I would like to find on the side what is missing. For some people, flirting is an opportunity to find a new partner. If there is a feeling that the relationship will collapse very soon, why waste precious time. It is better to take a closer look at new candidates in advance.
Compare partner to ex
Memories of past relationships are a very worrying sign. Often he indicates that the current feelings have already cooled down. No one will remember how good it was in the past if everything is fine at the moment. When everything is completely bad in the current relationship, people begin to compare partners not mentally, but aloud, expressing their claims in a rather harsh form. "My ex made a lot more money than you." "I'd better learn to cook like my past friend" - such phrases completely kill feelings.
Do not reply to messages for a long time
At the very beginning of communication, throughout the entire "candy-bouquet" period, people are very kind to each other. The relationship is still very fragile. Nobody wants to spoil them. It is normal not to respond to messages for a long time, not to pick up the phone at this stage. This is a favorite trick of many girls. But in an established relationship, not answering the phone, postponing a reply to a message are bad signs. They indicate that interest has disappeared.
Afraid to talk about relationships
If everything is good in a couple, partners discuss all their problems, willingly talk about feelings. Everything is different for those doomed to the collapse of unions. People prefer to remain silent. Conversations take place mainly on abstract topics. Sharp questions are ignored, since both understand that the conversation from the heart does not know how it will end. Some fear that the partner has a completely different view of the couple's present and future. There is only one way out of the situation: to gather the will into a fist and talk honestly. It is not a fact that the relationship will not end after this, but in case of a sad outcome, you will no longer need to waste time on hopeless communication.
Swear over trifles
Disagreement in a couple is normal. It never happens that both partners are happy with everything. But psychologists assure that certain predictions can be made in terms of the frequency and nature of the quarrels. If the relationship is doomed, people begin to quarrel over trifles, scandals become more and more prolonged, and ways out of conflicts are protracted. There is a feeling that a once loved and close person does not evoke warm feelings, everything in him irritates. It’s not only about everyday trifles, but also about nagging about appearance. Quarrels over trifles, irritation strongly undermine the psyche. In such cases, you need to do some serious work to save the relationship. And the desire must come from both sides.
