Holidays and vacations fly by quickly, and after them it is not always possible to immediately return to the regime. How to help students return to school without pain and tears after rest?
1. Recharge with positive emotions - with your child
Chats, demands, parenting meetings - school is also difficult for parents. It is important to behave like an actor on stage and not transfer your worries to the child. After all, they, like a radar, perfectly read the emotions of adults. To recharge with positive emotions together:
- remember cool and pleasant stories from school and tell them to your child. Even if school years were not sugar, you will definitely remember a couple of funny cases!
- buy nice clothes - physical comfort is needed at school. And the child will look forward to the moment when it will be possible to put on a new one.
- come up with something cool you will do together after school. So that there is no feeling that there will be no more joyful moments in working days.
2. Discuss that mistakes are normal
Your child is upset because of fours or the role of a poor student is already stuck to him. Or maybe he is an excellent student who is always tense and afraid of grades below five. In any case, do not demand ideal results from your child and do not scold for mistakes - this brings the desire to go to school closer to zero. Mistakes are a great opportunity to learn new things. It is not for nothing that young skaters are taught first to fall on the ice, and only then to skate and perform tricks. Shift the focus from the result to the process: praise the child for the effort and time spent.
3. Set motivating goals
The most important thing here is to set a goal that the child wants to achieve, which will be close to him. And this is not necessary - the top five in biology. You can set a goal for new knowledge and topics. Or for additional activities at school - organize a concert or a hike with classmates.
Here's how to set a goal:
Step # 1. Discuss with your child what he wants to achieve.
Step # 2. If the goal is large, break it down into small sub-goals that are easier to navigate.
Step # 3. Choose a reward that will motivate your child. The more difficult the goal, the more serious the reward should be.
4. Help your child love homework
Domashka is one of the main killers of motivation. Do you really want to sit over a textbook at home when you can play games or film a tiktok. But if you tune in to the homework correctly - first of all, physically, it will be much easier for the child to cope with it.
A few simple life hacks:
- first activate the brain and the ability to concentrate: take a deep breath, do exercises for the eyes - switch your gaze from the pen to different objects outside the window;
- cause a pleasant sensation in the body: roll a fluted pencil in your fingers or knead your neck;
- stock up on a glass of clean water;
- start with easy tasks - the child will do them quickly and get a taste
5. Do not take the initiative from the child
It so happens that the motivation to learn from a child disappears because of the parents themselves, although they act from the best intentions. This happens when parents seize the initiative and take on the role of a student: they collect a portfolio, choose twenty circles for him, write homework from online diaries for the child themselves. And then they wonder why he doesn't want anything.
Learning is a child's business, not a parent's. It is important for a student to learn on their own:
- write down your homework;
- know the schedule of lessons;
- collect a portfolio;
- choose interesting and favorite additional activities.
The parent needs to be helped and be a guiding voice that asks questions: what are the objects tomorrow? did you put in the books you need? what would you like to do? Give your child the opportunity to breathe, sometimes feel boredom and the desire to overcome this boredom - to do something useful and interesting!