Often women blame themselves for the fact that their husband is aggressive and allows himself to hit his wife. The reasons for this attitude of the wife to the problem are old prejudices, and the fear of being left alone, and upbringing. But assault in the family should not be allowed; this must be fought against.
Instructions
Step 1
Do not hope that the husband will correct himself. If you humbly endure aggression against you, a man will increasingly pour out his negativity on you. Stop looking for excuses for your spouse, no amount of trouble at work can excuse assault.
Step 2
Don't think that aggression is just a character trait of your spouse. A person can be quick-tempered, but knowing this trait, he will pour out his expression in creativity or simply quarrel with the mythical offender. If, instead, he yells angrily at his wife, the situation needs to be corrected.
Step 3
Talk to your husband when he is in a normal frame of mind. Explain that you cannot be afraid of his bad mood all your life. Offer to see a psychologist. A specialist will analyze your specific case and give you practical recommendations.
Step 4
Often, a man's aggression is replaced by a period of remorse and piercing tenderness, when he tenderly looks after you and brings coffee to bed. But soon this stage ends, and the spouse again begins to "tear and throw." The stronger sex is no less susceptible to a rage of hormones. Notice the cyclical nature of his metamorphosis and channel his energy into a more useful and enjoyable channel - sex.
Step 5
Realizing by some signs that the next "storm" is approaching, meet him not in a dressing gown in the kitchen, but in erotic lingerie in the bedroom. Each person is individual, and you, of course, know better what your husband likes the most in your intimate relationship. Do this and more, but remember that sex should be enjoyable for both spouses. Usually, after such treatment of aggression, a man becomes completely different, more gentle and affectionate.
Step 6
The daily confidential communication of spouses helps to prevent conflicts in the family very well. If you talk for a long time every evening at dinner and then, relaxing in front of the TV, a man will get used to sharing all his problems with you, knowing that he will always be listened to and supported. Be sure to delve into the essence of the conversation, analyze what you heard, give good advice and the next day take an interest in the development of events.
Step 7
The husband will know that when he comes home from work, he will receive a fair dose of warmth and love, reasonable words and sympathy. There will no longer be any need for him to swing his fists pointlessly without getting any benefit from it.
Step 8
But this method will take significantly longer for you to notice the result if you missed the moment when the spouse began to take out his anger on you. It is also difficult to fight the aggression of alcoholics and drug addicts. These people need to be cured first, and then to build spiritual relationships.
Step 9
If you fear for your health and are afraid that your husband will not accept kind words and admonitions, prepare a small bag with everything you need (documents, money, personal belongings) and hide it near the door. When the critical moment comes, grab her and run away. You can arrange in advance with a friend or family member to grant you asylum.
Step 10
In a difficult situation, ask for advice by calling the Women's Crisis Center. Specialists (psychologists, doctors, lawyers) are on duty at the phones who know exactly what to do in a given situation.
