Marriages in which the man is significantly older than the woman are not very common. They have an advantage: since the husband is more experienced and, as a rule, already provided for, he manages to build a strong family. However, alas, this option also has disadvantages.
Family Equality Issues
Almost certainly in a family where a man is 12 years older than a woman, questions of equality will not arise. The husband will always be stronger, smarter, more experienced, which means he will also be the head of the family. If he treats his spouse with care and respect, there will be no problems. Unfortunately, however, there is a risk that a man in this situation will become a tyrant. Often, husbands, who are much older than their wives, do not take the opinion of their second half into account and take very badly not only any criticism in their address, but also a simple unwillingness to follow their orders. To avoid such troubles, a woman should take care of the distribution of responsibilities in a couple in advance, as well as try to win the respect and trust of her spouse.
Another characteristic pitfall is the excessive pride of a man who has won the heart of a young and attractive girl. The effect is enhanced if the wife is still very young and inexperienced. Having pride and boasting to acquaintances, friends, colleagues and relatives, a man increases his self-esteem. In the future, he can continue to raise it by belittling the merits of his wife. Nagging, scandals and the habit of telling a woman “her place” are characteristic signs of improper family relationships. Of course, such a pitfall, fortunately, does not break every love boat, however, it is worth worrying about, especially if warning signs have already appeared.
Other problems in marriage
If both spouses are still young, the difference of 12 years is not very significant. However, over time, it will become much more noticeable. First of all, we are talking about the sexual life of the spouses. An experienced, mature man can teach a young girl a lot. However, if we are talking about a couple where the woman has already reached her prime, gained the necessary experience and began to need sex more than in her youth, and the man has already had the first problems with potency, a number of problems may arise. These problems can get worse over time. However, you can protect yourself from them or solve the difficulties that have already arisen if you take proper care of the man's health.
Another problem is different interests and different rhythms of life. In contrast, this difficulty usually occurs in young couples. When a girl is 20 and a man is 32, they may feel a little uncomfortable together, because the spouse does not take too seriously the young girlfriends of his beloved, and a fun pastime is no longer as significant for him as it used to be. Different priorities can also affect family life, especially if a man has already achieved his career and spends a lot of time at work.
