People in love make alliances, swear to each other in love and fidelity, and after a while the feelings pass and they are faced with a cruel reality. Domestic problems can ruin everything, but every couple has the opportunity to find love, but such a deep feeling is impossible without respect.
The ability to listen to a partner, take into account his interests, listen to advice and not push away in difficult moments is respect. In any relationship, these qualities allow you to find a compromise, resolve any conflicts. If all this is absent, then there is a high probability of difficulties and partings.
What is love?
Different people ask the question about love. It is studied by psychologists, philosophers, ordinary people. And only couples who have lived together for over 30 years can describe what it is. It is a feeling of deep affection when a loved one becomes a loved one. And the butterflies in the stomach, as in falling in love, are already absent, but something more appears, the understanding that life without the other has no meaning.
But love does not arise immediately, at first it is very bright, very alluring, but this is just the first stage. Inspired by feeling, people still cannot really appreciate each other. Enjoying the presence of a loved one gives magical sensations that inspire. Then the glamor disappears, and a real person with his habits appears before his eyes. And here it is important not to refuse, not to abandon him, but to start looking for something in common. It's like a new acquaintance, which is not always pleasant, but inevitable. And this is where respect should be, it is this that allows people to go through a difficult period, see only the good and not concentrate on the negative. If the crisis is lived through, then the relationship goes to a new level, when true love arises, when people begin to strive to be one.
Life without respect
Sometimes it is necessary to choose between love and respect, if a loved one does not take into account the opinion, does not listen and does nothing for the good of the family, it is worth considering whether this is necessary? Of course, feelings give strength to endure and believe that everything will change, but only this does not happen often. If a person does not know how to respect others, if he is selfish and inattentive, you can wait for transformations from him for a very long time, but there are no guarantees of their appearance.
True love is impossible without mutual concessions, without understanding and adaptation. If there is no respect, then love, deep and light, will never be born. Only falling in love with her "pink glasses" allows you to close your eyes to rudeness, cruelty and mistrust. Then all this will still very much interfere with the relationship, which means the family will be doomed to destruction.
You do not need to break the union right away if you have not found signs of respect, try to explain to your partner what you expect from him, what you think and what kind of behavior would suit you. Sometimes a person simply does not understand the expectations of the other, does not know how to behave. Set an example, convey in a dialogue or focus on good behaviors of friends, perhaps an example will inspire a person for transformation.
