School time is a memorable time in the life of any person. The school leaves indelible impressions and vivid memories in the soul. School teaches us not only algebra and physics, school teaches life. But even in this wonderful time, incidents and conflicts sometimes occur. I got a lot of deuces, had a fight with teachers, skipped lessons, broke a window, blew up a chemistry classroom … The reasons why parents are called to school are quite varied. How do I tell my parents about it?
Instructions
Step 1
Trust your parents. Be honest and frank with them. Remember that they, like you, were also once teenagers.
Step 2
The conversation should be constructive. Therefore, determine in advance the purpose of your conversation with your parents. Think about what the goal might be for a parent starting a nurturing conversation with you.
Step 3
Do not start a conversation with your parents by scolding, swearing, and looking for someone to blame. From the outset, set a calm, friendly, trusting tone of dialogue. Yes, yes, it should be just a dialogue, not a monologue. In the dialogue, after your remark, you carefully, thoughtfully, without interrupting, listen to the interlocutor.
Step 4
If you have any objections to what your parents said, express them calmly. Provide balanced arguments to defend your position. If you feel that your parents are imposing their goals on you, give them your opinion. Of course, listening to your parents is worth it. But sometimes it is necessary to explain to them that your life goals and priorities are somewhat different from their own. If so, let your parents understand why you chose this goal and this path, what motives you were guided by.
Step 5
If you can't reach a compromise right away, suggest that they reschedule the conversation until the next day. There will be time to think it over, weigh, evaluate. A new unexpected solution may come to mind that will suit everyone.
Step 6
In case of an extremely unsuccessful conversation with parents, the impossibility of establishing a constructive dialogue, seek help from a psychologist. Tell the psychologist about your problems. Ask him for advice on how you should be in your situation.
