Very often, that at the beginning a wonderful relationship gradually deteriorates, it seems to a woman that a man has changed, that he does not hear her, is not interested in her. But in fact, it is she who makes mistakes in the conversation and, without realizing it, turns the man against herself.
Women are often mistaken when talking to a man. It is our words that make men weak, lazy and lacking in initiative. And it is our words that can turn a dull loser into a successful leader and an exemplary father of a family. So how to talk to a man to create a good relationship, to stimulate him at work and get rid of bad habits?
First of all, it is worth remembering what absolutely cannot be done:
- No "bunnies", "little bunnies", "sweethearts" either in public or in private. A man wants to feel strong, confident, courageous, especially in public. No "baby dolls" possess such qualities. A man should be called a lion, an eagle and other brutal words that carry the energy of force. In public, the words "sweet" and "beloved" are quite suitable for expressing tenderness.
- Reproach like "You promised!" - and disappointedly folded sponges should be used no more than twice a year, and then in emergency cases. There is no need to emphasize his irresponsibility and forgetfulness. Everyone has mistakes. You can remind me in completely different words: "Do you remember, I asked to buy bread? Please go now." And if the matter is very important, emphasize (or draw) its positive qualities: "Honey, you are my man of your word, did something happen to you that you could not do it?"
- Telling a man that his hobbies are stupid and stupid is not the best way to build a strong relationship. He will not stop watching football or collecting butterflies, but he will know that you do not understand and do not support him. And he will be burdened by you because of the feeling of guilt, which will now be poisoned by his favorite work. Let his hobby take its place in his life. Let it be less than it was before you, but he needs it.
- Talking about previous sexual experiences is not worth it. Even if a man wants to know. In fact, every man wants to know that he is the best. Tell him that. There should be no comparisons, descriptions of the merits of other men.
- It is unwise to expect a man to fully meet your ideals. First, he may not even guess about them, he is just the way he is. And secondly, you don't know what it cost him to buy this bouquet or gift, what delayed him by 5 minutes, or why he came to your parents in dirty jeans, maybe he saved a man from under the wheels of a car. Instead of reprimanding after some time, ask what delayed him or, by praising his gift, hint what else you would like to receive next time.
- Don't criticize his past. His mom, his ex-girlfriend, his old car are not topics to be discussed in a negative tone. You shouldn't tell him what a failure he was before you and what exactly you made a person out of him.
- You can't distrust a man. You must show in every way that you believe in his success, in his undertakings and the ability to achieve everything. Do not interrupt him even if you see that he is doing wrong. Even if there is no result, you will maintain a good relationship, and he will definitely appreciate your behavior. He will be able to draw conclusions himself, or from yours - invisible! - help.
- Dissatisfaction with his body. It is important for a man to know that his partner likes his body. If his huge belly prevents you from living, go to the gym yourself, spin in front of the mirror and talk about proper nutrition. Reward him even for small successes, and simply deprive him of the praise as punishment for failures. Lack of habitual praise is a stronger incentive than punishment. Then a man who is confident in your love will want to receive more of your praise, and the way to this is indicated on the subscription.
