The happiness of being a parent is not so easy for everyone. Some can go through a whole mountain of examinations and treatments, others cannot decide to have a child, and still others simply do not want a child. Each family has its own path of life, and if the path of a family with children intersects with the path of parents without children, some questions, phrases or statements may be inappropriate. We bring to your attention ten questions and topics that are highly discouraged to discuss with childless couples.
Instructions
Step 1
"Why are there no children"
A person can see two happy children in front of him, but he can not see the situation and the reason for their absence of children. Of course, he will raise the topic and such a seemingly simple and understandable question may imply very difficult answers. It is possible that the couple has been struggling with infertility for many years, and they somehow have no desire to talk about such a sad topic. Or, even worse, they are happy anyway, without children, and they will defend their point of view and make excuses to their parents.
Step 2
"You will want to have a child, you will change your mind."
Usually, such phrases can be said in other words (you will grow up, you just did not find the right person, do not delay with this case), but their meaning is the same, and they lead to the fact that the couple realizes that the birth of a child is the final stage of their life … But, as you can imagine, this is far from the case.
Step 3
"Until a child appears, you will not understand what love is."
This is not so much inappropriate as it is insulting. It turns out that the sincere, warm and real feelings that childless spouses have for each other, for relatives, friends and acquaintances are not love. Without a doubt, parental love is the strongest and most sincere, but it differs from love for everyone else only in its unconditionality and purity.
Step 4
“Do you think you are tired? Oh, you know nothing about fatigue."
Caring for children gets tired and exhausting, but a childless boyfriend or girlfriend who works every day and takes care of a grandmother or prepares for, for example, a wedding, also has the right to say that they are tired. Such a remark is appropriate if a childless couple, boyfriend or girlfriend, are tired of their laziness.
Step 5
"I would like that too, but I have children"
If you are truly responsible parents, you will have almost no time left for the activities you love. But your sighs and your words that children "interfere" with you also sound from the outside as if you are prisoners striving for freedom. But, at the same time, without having given birth to children, you would not sigh so much. If so, do not make a childless couple feel guilty for denying yourself something, while they live for their own pleasure. In addition, no one forced you all to have a child, so there is nothing to feel sorry for yourself.
Step 6
"Who will take care of you in old age"
This question will most likely play against you. At the very least, it would be inhuman to give birth to a child in order for him to become a nanny in the future. And to be honest, half of the residents of nursing homes have children. Remember this.
Step 7
"It's okay that you don't have children: the dog is your substitute for the child."
Comparing an animal with a child is simply unacceptable, because no pet can replace a child. At the very least, any animal lives less. In addition, for a childless couple who have been trying to have a child for several years, it will be offensive to show your offer to have a dog or cat.
Step 8
"Until you have children, you will not understand anything."
Parents with children are very fond of ending any topic with such phrases, including topics about politics, peace and art. Of course, the worldview of parents with children changes, but this does not mean at all that they become wise and that people without children cannot understand them. It so happens that childless men, women, or couples can provide more valuable advice.
Step 9
"Do not come to us - we will have children"
You don’t have to decide for a childless couple whether they can come to you or attend parties that will have children screaming and laughing. With such "prohibitions" you make outcasts out of a couple. Maybe they wanted to chat with the children they have been trying to have for several years?
Step 10
"To give birth is a feat"
To give birth is not a feat, but, in fact, a completely normal function of the female body. If giving birth is a feat, then what can you say about a couple who took adopted children, caring for disabled children and at the same time did not lose themselves? I doubt that this cannot be called a feat, so you shouldn't praise yourself for having children and denigrate those who have no children. Each has its own exploits.
