Does your husband drink? It's his choice. If he has a physical dependence on alcohol, a high resistance to alcohol and a constant need to drink, then he is one of the representatives of the two million army of Russian alcoholics. An alcoholic husband can create serious problems not only for society, but also, which happens much more often, be a source of violence, poverty and disease in the family. It depends only on you whether to risk yourself by staying with him, or to leave him and return to yourself the prosperous life to which you have the right.
Instructions
Step 1
Accept the fact that you cannot force your husband to stop drinking. Many wives of alcoholics continue to live with their spouses, because they feel sorry for them, understand that without their care, the partner risks completely sinking. They say that alcoholism is a disease, and the sick need help. Their main mistake is that they do not want to admit that any disease must be treated, and if the patient does not want to be treated, then he does not deserve either sympathy or support.
Step 2
Think about how you will build your life by leaving your husband. What to change? What will you lose? What will you buy? Think about how your decision will affect other people besides you and your husband. For children? Your parents? On your loyal friends?
Step 3
Think about where you will live or where will you send your spouse to live? Even if your husband has not shown a propensity for violence before, you still cannot stay with him in the same territory. Collect his things or move yours.
Step 4
Tell your husband about your decision, choosing a time when he is sober, if possible. Explain to him, with examples, how his alcoholism has affected your life, the life of your family. Don't blame, just state the facts. Choose a quiet, public place for conversation, where you will not be alone, but can have a quiet conversation. If you have reason to fear for your safety, choose prudence over nobility - leave him a note.
Step 5
After you leave, try not to come into contact with him. Change your mobile phone number or block its number in your device. Do not let him into the apartment where you live. Don't let him "catch" you on the street. There is a tiny chance that your leaving will be able to encourage him to quit alcohol, but this takes time. Do not give him “one more chance”, let him first do what you have been trying to do from him. Don't feel obligated to return if your spouse goes through rehab. Lost trust is not a thing that can be dropped and then simply raised.
