Life is incredibly complex and inexplicable. All in black and white stripes. Ups and downs, joy and despair. Of course, an unsuccessful streak is not encouraging, especially if it went through her personal life. Yesterday my husband was with you, and today, having collected his things, he sailed to other shores - to another woman, to his mistress, to the one who dared to destroy the family. Perhaps it is the fault and the husband. In both cases, it is unbearably painful, offensive, disgusting and there is no place for consolation. But this period must be experienced in order to become happy again.
Instructions
Step 1
Cry, whine, scream - let off steam. Don't be disturbed. Move the counselors and comforters aside. Let all the bitterness pour out of your heart, otherwise there will be a residue that will stir up feelings like an old wound.
Step 2
Now, having cooled down, try to find the reason why your husband made a choice not in your favor. Try to be objective - this is necessary in order to avoid repeating mistakes later. Perhaps frequent scandals on a certain topic will become a grain of truth. Household difficulties, crisis of marriage life, dissatisfaction with your shell and behavior, lack of romance, passion and attraction, divergence of interests. You must be clear about why you broke up.
Step 3
Take a notebook and a pen, write on a sheet of paper how you think you are and how you see yourself. For example: “I am beautiful, sweet, sexy, economic, slim, stunning! And in general, I'm great. Stick the piece of paper on the refrigerator so you can glance at it every morning.
Step 4
Keep yourself busy. Business, favorite business, hobbies, hobbies - immerse yourself in them to the very head. Set goals and achieve results. If you have children, it's time to switch to them, surround your little ones with care and affection.
Step 5
Remember everything that you could not afford when you were married. Gatherings in a cafe with girlfriends, midnight dances, hours of shopping. You have freedom - down with restrictions, way to transparent dresses and kilograms of chocolate.
Step 6
There is an expression: the worse a woman's soul is, the better she should look. Pamper yourself, please, perfect your appearance.
Step 7
Now, make a list of the things that annoyed and angered you in your husband, from the socks thrown in the center of the room to the lack of tenderness and foreplay in the bedroom. Think how much negativity disappeared with this person. You no longer need to endure, adjust, please someone. Did you really love this man? Maybe this is just a habit that is difficult to get rid of.
Step 8
Throw away or take away from your home all your husband's belongings - not a single picture-frame-postcard should catch your eye. Rearrange or renovate your home to change the atmosphere.
Step 9
Learn to be independent again. Calculate your budget. Maybe it's time for drastic changes - in school, work, career. Plan your weekend a month in advance so you don't have a last-minute opt-out. Travel, walk, make important decisions on your own.
Step 10
Chat with new people, make acquaintances. Visit exhibitions, theaters, cinema - enjoy the company. Call old friends whose phone numbers are almost lost. A close friend, sister, mother - everyone will support you in any endeavors and will not allow such a charming woman to wither away.
Step 11
Do not think that you have been abandoned, dumped, betrayed. Consider that you have learned a good life lesson that will teach you to value your loved one, your relationship, and enjoy every minute you spend together. Learn to forgive and not hold grudges, because you could be in your husband's place. Having met your soul mate, you will step into a new future and break with the past.
