For a loving spouse, divorce becomes a real disaster and is perceived as the ruin of one's entire life. It is especially difficult for women, because, as a rule, they are worse off financially. And the responsibility for the fate of children lies mainly with mothers.
Instructions
Step 1
If your husband told you that he is leaving the family because he fell in love with another woman, do not try to persuade him to stay, do not humiliate yourself, do not appeal to pity - this will be a very serious mistake. If you convince him that you will commit suicide as soon as he walks out the door, your husband may stay this time, but your life is unlikely to be happy. He will not stop loving that woman, but he will consider himself a victim of his own nobility and your blackmail.
Step 2
Accept his decision, agree that each of you has a right to your life. Perhaps another woman will make him happy, and then it would be wrong for you to interfere with his departure. On the other hand, the decision to divorce may be a mistake, and the husband will want to return to you. Then he will already beg for your condescension, and you will listen to his excuses.
Step 3
If you have children, do everything so that divorce affects them as little as possible. Explain to them that daddy still loves them, but that he will live in a different place. Do not try to blackmail your husband with a ban on meeting with children - it is not a fact that he will want to see them at all until the "honeymoon" is over in the new family. If the husband loves children and wants to communicate with them, do not bother him, do not deprive the children of communication with their father - they will be the victim.
Step 4
Take care that children do not suffer materially. If the husband does not want to pay alimony in full and intends to hide the true amount of income, you can go to court with a requirement to establish a fixed amount of alimony. Talk to your lawyer about what measures you can take in this case.
Step 5
Don't let yourself become a victim of great shattered love. You are not a victim, but the owner of your own life. Load yourself up with rewarding or enjoyable activities so you have less time for self-pity. Sports activities are very helpful - fitness, skiing, swimming, skating, cycling. Outdoor activities promotes the production of joy hormones - endorphins.
Step 6
Perhaps you had a hobby that you abandoned due to lack of time. Get back to your hobby and try to find like-minded people - positive communication will help you get back to your normal life.
Step 7
Find people who are worse off than you and help them. Divorce is not the biggest misfortune in life. Perhaps situations in other families will convince you of this, and active sympathy and help will help to distract from your own experiences.
Step 8
Do not forget that the husband left for another woman with all his flaws and oddities, and, therefore, unexpected discoveries await her when the candy-bouquet period of their relationship ends.
