Few families manage to live without quarrels and quarrels. But when insults and humiliation from a man become the main component of a relationship, this is a sure sign that a male tyrant dominates the family.
Why do women live with tyrants?
Women can live for years with men who regularly humiliate, insult and even beat them. At the same time, they are not taking any steps to break off these relations. In some cases, the reason lies in the so-called "victim psychology". Such people like to feel like martyrs, to feel sorry for themselves. Tyrant husbands often exacerbate feelings of guilt. A favorite excuse for sadists is "You yourself brought me to this." Receiving a severe reprimand for every speck of dust on the dresser or poorly ironed shirt, a woman begins to think that she is a bad housewife and unworthy of another husband.
Often women justify their passive behavior by the fact that with a tyrant husband they live for the sake of their children. That a natural father is always better than the absence of a man in the family. This is an extremely dangerous delusion. The boy, seeing his mother, who over and over again forgives humiliation and beatings, will transfer his father's demeanor to his future relationship. In fact, you can raise a future tyrant who will make another woman suffer. You not only cripple the psyche of children, but also endanger their life and health.
Often, material dependence keeps women close to tyrants. And here you need to clearly understand what is more important to you. Self-esteem and freedom of choice or living in fear, but without material difficulties. A despotic man forbids a woman to work in order to further enslave her victim.
How to break off a relationship with a tyrant?
The first step is realizing that you are missing out on the opportunity to become truly happy by spending years living with a tyrant. Think about the fact that there is a man who will appreciate and respect you. Friends and family will help you to raise self-esteem and regain faith in yourself. There are crisis centers for women in difficult life situations. Chat with other victims of domestic violence in online forums. They can give advice based on their experience.
As strange as it may sound, male tyrants have a tendency to monogamy. They cannot just let go of their woman. You need to leave yourself. Write a statement to the police, file for divorce and division of property. Find defenders among acquaintances or law enforcement officers if you fear revenge.
Even after leaving her tyrant man, a woman is capable of experiencing a subconscious feeling of guilt for leaving him. Especially if a man has alcohol or drug addiction. He will beg to return, promise to never raise his hand, and vow that everything will be new. Don't fall for provocations. The habits of such men do not change. See a psychotherapist who can help you get rid of feelings of guilt and psychological addiction.
