The decision to part with her lover was made and it remains to realize it. Men have different perceptions of a woman's desire to end a relationship. Some of them relate to this adequately and disappear from sight, others continue to impose their communication and turn a woman's life into continuous torment.
Instructions
Step 1
First, talk to your lover. Explain that you no longer love him and do not want to continue the relationship. Motivate with truthful reasons. If you don't see him as a potential husband, tell him so. If you have a family, explain that this love triangle is causing distress to your loved ones.
Step 2
In the course of the conversation, try to avoid abusive language towards your former lover. The male pride is a rather vulnerable thing, and in some cases it can be the reason for the transformation of an agreeable partner into an unbridled jealous person. In response to a statement about his weak masculine abilities, he may begin to stubbornly prove the opposite.
Step 3
A hurt male pride can provoke constant persecution. He can, as it were, accidentally meet you near work or in a cafe, give flowers and make proposals to start all over again, promise that everything will be different. The nature of the persecution can be very different, it all depends on the person. There are pathological persecutors for whom the fact of renewal of a relationship is not so important as to prove to himself that he is capable of anything - including returning a woman at any cost. If your ex is one of those - beware of talking with him and walk by if you happen to meet. Stand firm in your position, let him know that your relationship is over.
Step 4
Do not provoke him yourself, in case of casual meetings, avoid the phrases "You ruined my whole life" or "I spent the best years on you." This will only strengthen his desire to bring you back. Avoid talking about your ex-lover in the circle of your mutual acquaintances, do not write provocative information on social networks - where he can find out about your thoughts and make an attempt to meet.
Step 5
It is quite difficult to part with a man who, in childhood, did not receive enough love and care from his mother. Such an ex-lover can be on his heels, kneel, and even threaten suicide in case your relationship does not resume. You will be quite painful and sorry for him, but remember - you are just a tool for him to relive old childhood memories. Do not give in to his pleas, the whole point is not in you, but in his personal psychological characteristics.
Step 6
The hardest kind of former lovers is "maniacs". These are psychopathic personalities who categorically do not accept refusals. Everything can be expected from them, including criminal acts. You need to be careful with such people, and at the slightest threat from him, contact the law enforcement agencies. Perhaps after your first written statement, little will change, but after repeated appeals, he cannot avoid communicating with law enforcement agencies.
