Many parents often wonder how to punish or praise a child for an act, and get the desired result without negative consequences. After all, it often happens when praise is followed by the birth of negative character traits, such as self-indulgence, permissiveness and arrogance. It is the same with punishment.
A frightened and embittered child, who has not been explained what his offense is, will not be able to develop harmoniously in the future. It often happens that the child is not explained the basic rules of behavior, what is good and bad, how to act in certain situations and do not instill moral principles.
According to psychologists and teachers, using physical methods in the upbringing of a child, the result desired by the parents will not be achieved. There are a number of rules that make it easier for parents to avoid inappropriate punishment.
Under no circumstances should the child be punished by deprivation of food. You also don't need to force him to read and write.
Parents must be firmly convinced of the guilt of the child.
Adults are a pattern of behavior that children inherit. It will be difficult to show the child that it is impossible to impolitely address the elders, although the parent himself constantly does this.
Do not single out one child in front of another, do not set as an example. If both deserve the punishment, then in consequence they should receive the same.
Never insult a child or belittle his dignity.
If the parent threatened punishment for the misdemeanor, and the child nevertheless committed it, then do not forget about the punishment. Thus, the baby is aware of the importance of the adult's words and decisions.
It often happens that children's actions themselves lead to punishment. And remembering the consequences, the child will think about whether it is right to do this. For example, when my mother said not to swing in the chair, as you can fall, or put on mittens so that your hands do not freeze.
Following the rule of equal punishment, you should also praise children equally. This is true in families with more than one child. Some moms and dads do not specifically pay attention to the merits and successes of their child, as they believe that they can thus spoil him. Praise plays an important role in the development of the child, in his attitude to activity, peace and self-awareness. It is important for parents sometimes just to praise for the effort when the baby really tried, but did not get what he wanted. This will be a positive reinforcement to achieve more in the future.
