To give birth to a child alone is a fairly serious step that every woman is capable of. The reasons and motives may be different, however, it is necessary to be aware of the full responsibility and prospects of such a situation. An objective view of things and psychological readiness will help you make the right decision.
Motives and desires
Analyze the reasons why you decided to have a child alone. Discard all stereotypes that influence your decision. Perhaps you are influenced by the opinion of others who believe that by a certain age any woman should have children. Or you are being pressured by your parents demanding grandchildren. Or it seems to you that if you do not give birth now, then later it will be too late. Remember that your desire to have a baby should not be influenced by the opinions of others. It will be much easier for you to raise a happy baby if your desire is sincere, if you just want to have a loved one and give him a lot, without conventions and clichés.
Objective conditions
Look at the current situation objectively, do not build illusions, but do not exaggerate. Of course, the child makes a lot of well-grounded changes in your life, but does not break it and does not force you to completely redo your usual way. You will not have the help of a loving father and caring husband, so you should initially start from this state of affairs. You must foresee everything in advance: how you will make a living after the birth of the baby, with whom to leave it in emergency situations, what to do in case of unforeseen expenses. It is best to set aside a sufficient amount in advance so that you do not experience financial difficulties at least for the first time. It will not be superfluous to enlist the support of loved ones. For example, you may only think that your mother will sit with the child, but in fact it turns out that this is a burden for the future grandmother. Try to clarify these points as early as possible. Forget about silly sayings like "God gave a child, will give to a child." Remember that nothing will appear by itself, and without any help with the baby in your arms, you risk being in a difficult situation.
Do not forget to think about the most important point: how conception will occur. If you have a man from whom you plan to become pregnant and continue to have a child alone, try to make sure how the potential candidate will react to this. If you have a trusting relationship, but your partner has no desire to acquire offspring and he does not want to take on any responsibility, clarify all these points in advance, or even document them.
Psychological readiness
The main step in deciding to have a baby alone is to stop seeing yourself as a victim with the offensive label of “single mother”. With the right mood, you can give the baby even more than some parents in full families. Do not blame yourself for this situation, and even more so do not look for the guilty among others. Remember that no one owes you and your unborn child anything: neither the state, nor parents, nor men. Think only about how much happiness the baby will give you by his presence alone.
