"Soon to school!", - posters with neatly dressed first-graders are merrily dazzling. And your "skoroshkolnik" does not look like one of these. Harmful, grimacing and stubborn. How to deal with a rogue without harming him?
A child aged 6-8 is going through another age crisis. This is due to the transition from play to learning activities. The child wants to learn, wants to be an adult, wants to be useful. And adults still see him as a baby and do not want to reckon with his opinion.
You are faced with disobedience, ignorance, lies, stubbornness and antics, do not rush to punish the child. If you are too harsh and demanding, it can negatively affect his self-esteem, but if you let him "stand on his ears", it can be dangerous to his health and life. As with other age crises, you will need patience and flexibility.
The more flexible you are, the calmer and more imperceptible the crisis passes. Excessive assertiveness and severity, on the contrary, increases unpleasant symptoms.
Praise your child when there is something to praise for. Look for reasons: “You painted so beautifully. / You washed the floor so clean. / You dance so well. These words, when spoken sincerely, give the child confidence in himself.
Let him manage his territory and personal belongings, give more freedom of action. Let him choose how to put furniture in the room, what things and stationery to buy for the school. If the child does not want to do homework or fulfill some request, you can not force him, but say what will happen if he does not. Let him decide. If she does not do her homework, the teacher will give a bad mark. If he doesn’t brush his teeth, he will have to go to the dentist. Doesn't help mom - dad will be upset. Most often, children make the right choice, if not from the first, then from the second time.
Get used to the new regime not from September 1st, but from the middle of summer. Then getting up to school in the morning will be easier. Teach you to pack your portfolio and prepare things in the evening. This habit will be useful for the child throughout his life.
For every bad deed, you can establish a certain (not very strict) punishment. Then the child will know what to prepare for. If you punish and do not punish for bad behavior, it makes you less fair in the eyes of the child. There must be a certain sequence and consistency. In confusing situations, you can invite the child to come up with a punishment for himself.
To show independence and develop a sense of responsibility, you can entrust your child with taking care of a pet or indoor plants. Taking care of a pet or a flower will give your child a very valuable experience.
Don't criticize him for his failures, especially in school. Your dissatisfaction with academic performance will make your child think they are no longer loved. After all, nothing of the kind was required of him before.
If you give a negative assessment to something, then give it to the action, not the child. There is no need to say "you are bad", say "you acted badly", etc. Explain why it is bad and how to do it well.
