Before starting a sexual relationship, a girl is afraid not only of how she will look for her boyfriend, but also of how to lose her virginity without pain. Some girls are so afraid of pain that they cannot completely relax, as a result, the first sexual experience ends in failure.
Instructions
Step 1
It should be noted that not all girls experience the same sensations during their first sex. Everyone has different sensitivity, pain is also felt in completely different ways. Someone during the first sex will not feel any unpleasant sensations at all, but someone will get nervous, tense and then will describe the whole process as torture, full of pain and blood. In most cases, the first penetration is not so painful and seems so because of the fear and human psychology of exaggerating everything. Therefore, you do not need to listen to more experienced friends about the nightmares of first sex, then you yourself will be calmer and more confident. In this case, it is better to know as little as possible about sensations, then you will not have to worry so much.
Step 2
However, it is still better to prepare for the first sex in advance. At the pharmacy, you need to stock up on condoms and water-based lubricants. You need to prepare a place where you feel safe and can relax well. It is very important that the girl with the young man is not distracted by anything and no one can disturb. If a girl is nervous about whether her parents will return in an hour, the risk of failure will be higher.
Step 3
Tune in psychologically, realize your sexuality and willingness to surrender to a young man. The feeling that you love him with all your heart, want unity with him - this is the most important feeling before losing your virginity. When there is confidence in this, confidence in yourself will come. You should not be tormented by the question of how you will look to him without proper experience in intimate relationships. For a good young man, the fact that you give yourself to him is very important. When a girl gives herself to a young man chosen for the first time, he begins to love and appreciate her even more, because for him it is a great honor.
Step 4
When there is inner self-confidence and the desire to have sexual intercourse with the chosen person, all fears will gradually go away. This means that the girl will be able to relax well and enjoy the caresses. For a start, you should arrange a romantic dinner, you can drink some wine or champagne. A romantic setting will set your partners in the right mood. After a light dinner, you need to move on to mutual affection. The first time, it's best to do everything gradually. Talk to your partner and talk about your wishes and concerns. It is very important that he does not rush, but allows the girl to relax, calm down, enjoy the moment. Of course, the girl will most likely not be able to experience an orgasm after the first sex. But she will receive pleasure from the intimacy of a partner with the right approach.
Step 5
When a girl is aroused, a sufficient amount of lubrication is produced in her vagina, which makes the first penetration easier, making it less uncomfortable for the girl. The hymen itself contains not so many nerve endings for its rupture to cause great pain. Usually it is no more than a needle prick. Great pain can be caused by the lack of a sufficient amount of lubrication in the vagina and nerve spasms of its walls, when the girl is frightened and instinctively wants to stop the penetration of the penis, clamping herself with her whole body. Therefore, it is so important for guys to be very caring and gentle at the first contact with a woman's body. For the first time, you can use the purchased lubricant.
Step 6
For the first sexual intercourse to be painless, sex positions also matter. It is best to use the classic one when the man is on top - it is comfortable for both the girl and the young man. You can put a small pillow under the girl's waist, and bend her legs at the knees and raise her to the chest, then the tension of the hymen will be maximum, it will not just stretch, but will immediately break. It is possible to use the pose from behind, when the girl is lying on her stomach or kneeling. This ensures deep penetration of the penis. Some confident girls use the "rider" pose, deciding how they will descend on the partner's penis. To reduce pain, some young people insert a penis into the vagina very quickly, some move gradually - here it is better to discuss with a guy which method of penetration is more preferable for you.
