Any married couple, sooner or later, is faced with a lack of understanding. The reasons are very different, ranging from differing interests and ending with elementary financial instability. Numerous quarrels and mutual reproaches are the lot of absolutely every marriage. But what if the bonds of Hymen were not as strong as expected? Can you fall in love with your ex-wife?
Instructions
Step 1
Think carefully about the possible consequences of a renewed relationship. Weigh the pros and cons. Analyzing your past relationships will be much more effective if you do not begin to produce it in your head, but reflect everything on paper. Take a piece of paper and draw a vertical line in the center to make two columns. On the left, list all the pros of your relationship with your ex-spouse, and on the right - the cons. Do not rush to make a decision, take this issue seriously! Keep in mind - the analysis stage can take more than one day. When you're done with the list, just compare the results of both columns. Based on this, you can conclude whether it is worth renewing everything. If you can admit to yourself with a certain degree of confidence that you really want to return your ex-spouse, go to the next step.
Step 2
For your ex-wife to love you again, you will have to reevaluate your values. First of all, you need to reflect on what is most often the cause of your quarrels. Remember what it was about you that annoyed your spouse. Resurrect as many conflicts in your memory as you can, and isolate from all these cases the common points that from time to time become a bone of contention for you.
Step 3
You must learn to admit your mistakes. Until this happens to your consciousness, you will face problems again and again. Imagine your reluctance to admit your own guilt in the form of a dam, which creates an obstacle to the flow of negativity. From this, the flow of negative emotions cannot simply flow past you, being at the mercy of the flow. The opposite happens - it accumulates thanks to the dam, and this process of pumping up emotions lasts until there are enough of them to blow the dam to smithereens.
Step 4
As soon as you manage to determine the prerequisites for family conflicts, start to eradicate those character traits in yourself that provoked them.
Step 5
Learn to listen to your ex. The problems of many people arise from the fact that they seem to listen to each other, but do not hear at all. You have to learn the art of exactly hearing a person close to you, his wishes, discontent, claims, accusations, reproaches. Only then can you turn them into praise, gratitude, and even pride.
Step 6
Know how to talk about your feelings. It's simple and difficult at the same time. Don't be afraid to confess your most sincere impulses to your ex-wife. Lay out everything as if in the spirit! Let her know that you need her, that, having lost her, you realized how empty and joyless your life is without her, beloved. Let him know that for her sake you learned to be different and will continue to change, just not to see her tears, just to please her, just to be worthy of her.
