When people get married, every now and then they want "advice and love." But years pass, and some do not have either one or the other. And if in one of the options the family turns into two strangers, then in the second the spouses hate each other.
Leave or stay
A woman has a choice: either to leave her hated husband, or to continue living with him. First of all, you need to think about how to rectify the situation. Sometimes a woman is frightened by the lack of independence in material terms. In this case, it is necessary to consider the current situation as providing an opportunity to realize oneself. Very often a woman, left without the support of her husband, achieves success.
Try to figure out why it happened, what exactly brought to hatred. If you can answer yourself these questions, you need to talk to your husband. Open, honest and calm. Necessarily without swearing, which will not help in any way, but will only aggravate the situation.
Conversation and confession is better than quiet hatred. Maybe you will come to the fact that you are just tired of each other, and then a temporary separation will help your relationship.
And if you do not glue the crack in the relationship at all, then you need to calmly come to a joint decision - how to live on.
There is no reason why you should stay with your husband and hate him further, thereby humiliating yourself. But there is so much for which it is worth trying to revive a warm relationship.
Stay for the sake of the child
Staying with a hated husband for the sake of a child, you push three people to torment: yourself, a husband and a child. In a family where parents live only for the sake of the child, comfortable conditions cannot develop for him. Children really feel the atmosphere. There is no need to sacrifice yourself for the sake of the child. Don't lie to yourself and to him. A child needs love, and where hatred reigns, there is no place for love.
Such an environment cannot be conducive to the development of the child. This life is without joy and warmth. The child will not say thank you for the years of hate. Often the result is a crippled child's psyche and a whole bunch of complexes. And there is nothing to say about childhood memories. The child needs calm, happy parents.
If you could not agree with each other and start your relationship anew, it is better to break up. Maybe it will be a temporary breakup, during which you realize that you miss each other. Such cases are not rare and, if the family has a chance, the breakup will help to see it.
If you split up completely, you need to try to maintain a normal relationship so that the child does not feel abandoned. The father should see the child, and the mother should not interfere with this. You can always find a compromise and provide your child with a happy childhood, even in an incomplete family.
This step must be taken for the sake of the child, so that he feels that he has a loving mom and dad.
