Shy people with low self-esteem tend to have difficulty communicating. Meeting another person can be a real challenge for them. To overcome the feeling of fear, they need to seriously work on themselves and their own worldview.
It is necessary
- - life-affirming affirmations;
- - literature or video course on meditation.
Instructions
Step 1
Analyze your fears. Answer yourself honestly to the question: what exactly are you afraid of? Perhaps you consider yourself not smart enough or beautiful enough? Maybe you think that a person will not be interested in communicating with you, he will laugh at you, etc.? Know that all these complexes and fears are unreal, they are invented and generated by you and exist only in your head.
Step 2
Get rid of stereotyped thinking, do not hold yourself captive to your delusions based on past bad experiences. Remember that everything in the world is constantly changing and there simply cannot be two absolutely identical situations. Even if you failed the last time, this does not mean that this time you will not succeed.
Step 3
Don't try to label people. For example, say you are offered to meet a girl in a prestigious position. You want to get acquainted, but you are afraid, thinking that she probably has a very high opinion of herself, too businesslike, assertive, etc. Having invented a non-existent image for yourself, inspired by some stereotypes, you can refuse this acquaintance. Although in fact this girl may turn out to be modest, intelligent, kind - in general, the person of your dreams.
Step 4
Work to improve your self-esteem. Develop your horizons, read more, watch educational films, etc. Sign up for any courses, for example, a foreign language, travel, find an interesting hobby.
Step 5
Strive for spiritual harmony, love yourself for who you are. Remember that there are no perfect people in the world, each person has some flaws. To find spiritual harmony, engage in meditation, repeat life-affirming affirmations.
Step 6
Develop communication skills. If you find it difficult to learn how to overcome barriers in communication in real-life situations, start by practicing skills in the virtual space. Communicate on the Internet in various forums, communities, etc., gradually transferring the acquired skills to communication in the real world.
Step 7
Strive for a positive outlook. Try to treat people kindly, see only good in them, do not focus on negative events taking place in the world. Do not cultivate a variety of fears, including the fear of new people.
Step 8
Remember, too, that in most cases, the fear disappears in the first 5-10 minutes of communication with a person. Having found some common topic for conversation, feeling an affection for each other, people, as a rule, quickly relax and forget about shyness and communication barriers. If in the process of communication you constantly feel some kind of awkwardness, constraint, self-doubt, perhaps this is not your fault and you should look for another interlocutor.
Step 9
If, in the process of acquaintance, you feel a lump rolling up to your throat, the earth is leaving from under your feet, you turn pale, blush, etc., fear takes possession of you, take a deep breath and try to distance yourself from this situation for at least a few seconds. Think of something completely different, remember something interesting, funny, laugh to yourself, and then smile at your interlocutor. Remember that he is the same person as you and does not wish you anything bad.
