Some relationship problems should not be left to chance. They need to be solved, having previously discussed everything with your beloved. However, in order to have a heart-to-heart talk with a guy, you need to prepare for the conversation.
What do you need to prepare for before a sincere conversation with a guy?
If you decide to frankly discuss a problem with your boyfriend, you should understand that the purpose of your conversation will not be to impose your idea, position and point of view on the guy, but simply to publicize your opinion. People very often have their own beliefs about a particular situation, and someone else's view of things rarely becomes acceptable to them. That is why you should prepare in advance for the fact that your interlocutor will be indifferent to your thoughts, and you will have to stock up on weighty arguments to prove your case, as well as iron nerves and patience.
If you want to achieve something from your lover, you must make him want to do it himself. Do not pressure the guy and think about what to say to him, so that he realizes the need for this or that action.
How to build a sincere conversation with a guy?
The hardest part is getting started with your heart-to-heart conversation. It is best if you choose the right place and time for this when your boyfriend will be in a good mood. If your conversation will touch upon serious and painful topics, you should wait not for your lover's good mood, but for a neutral one, otherwise you risk getting negative emotions from him for a ruined day that started so well.
Start the conversation with the fact that you need to talk, and it is better to start the conversation not with accusatory phrases, where only the word "you" will be present, but to voice your feelings and feelings. For a sincere dialogue, the pronoun "we" is more suitable.
Do not try to convey to your lover how bad he is. If something does not suit you, do not throw all your negativity on the guy. It will be much better if you tell him that you are very happy with him, that he is the best, but there are some points that bother you and that you might want to change.
It is not necessary to make huge speeches in a monologue. Let your boyfriend speak his mind and explain his behavior and actions. You may be able to come to a common denominator much faster than you expected.
Get ready for the fact that your conversation will not bring a fleeting solution to all problems, but will only provide ground for thought. Any problem needs to be thought through, so ask your significant other to think seriously about what you said, and eventually bring it back in conversation.
