For the first time, we come across the fact that a child is lying and cheating when the child turns two years old. By this age, the child begins to understand that if you lie, then you can not do what you want from him. And if a child breaks a vase or is somehow guilty, all the blame can simply be shifted to the cat.
In fact, a childish lie is formed in a child long before two years of age. It begins in infancy, when a child cries just to see his mother, and not because he needs something. And from an early age, the baby gets what he wants, that is, at his first cry, the mother comes and, trying to understand the reason for crying, spends a sufficient amount of time with the child. The rule "cheated - got it" is fixed in the child's head.
The child grows up and starts throwing tantrums at the store. With all his appearance, he shows that without this machine, life is no longer sweet to him. This is also the trick of the little tyrant. He realizes that he could easily do without a toy, but to get it, you need to pretend to be in front of your parents and portray suffering.
What do we do when we catch a child cheating? We make you confess in front of everyone, thereby humiliating the baby. Now he understands that lying next time needs to be more sophisticated. Unfortunately, at the moment, no one has learned to wean either adults or children from lying. We are all time, to one degree or another. Whether from selfish motives, or from noble ones, we are still not telling the truth. Fighting childish lies is tantamount to fighting windmills. But leaving the situation without your control is not worth it.
Instead of catching the kid on every trick, try to teach him to distinguish between "good" lies and "bad". The child must understand the edge of what is permissible. It's one thing to not tell parents the truth about what gift for March 8 the children prepared for their mothers to surprise them. It’s quite another to hide my mother’s gold ring and pretend that you don’t know where it is.
You need to understand that the first innocent and naive childish deception is not yet a reason for panic and decisive action. In some peoples, on the contrary, it is generally accepted that a child's lie is a sign of a good imagination and the correct development of a child's fantasy. Therefore, the main thing is to find a middle ground, and not to draw excessive attention to the problem, and also not to miss the opportunity to influence the child in childhood.
Before you start criticizing and raising a child, think once again about your behavior in relation to him. After all, one of the most common reasons for children's lies is a lack of attention from adults. The child wants to appear better than he is, in the hope of simply earning your praise.
