Adolescence is a rather problematic period in a person's life. At this time, puberty begins, the young body grows very quickly, the process of personality formation and psychological development takes place. Teenagers want to understand who they really are and try to appear better in the eyes of others.
Why do teens lie
All parents dream of raising their children to be honest and decent people, but many of them face childish lies. This occurs most often during adolescence. To overcome this unpleasant phenomenon, it is necessary to identify the true cause of the lie.
As a child grows up, he has a desire to become independent and less dependent on his parents. This often becomes the reason for lying. The child is trying to create his own space, so he keeps his secrets. Lies in this case may be completely unfounded, for example, a teenager says that he was in the library, although in fact he downloaded the necessary literature from the Internet. He knows that you would not scold him if you found out how he prepared his homework, but he wants too much to create his personal life. In the event of such a lie, you do not need to worry, you just need to understand that your child is growing up.
The most common reason for lying is fear of punishment. A teenager is telling a lie to hide some kind of misconduct - for receiving a deuce at school or a remark in a diary.
Many children lie to establish themselves as a leader among their peers. They come up with unprecedented stories to earn credibility. But such a lie too quickly becomes a habit, so children begin to deceive not only friends and classmates, but also their parents.
What to do to stop a teenager from lying
There can be many reasons for lying. The main thing is not to ignore its manifestation, otherwise your child may decide that lying is absolutely normal.
If you notice that your child is lying, this is a signal that not everything is going smoothly in his world. You should reconsider your own behavior. Parents are an example for their children, so never, under any circumstances, lie in front of your child.
Perhaps the teen is lying because he lacks your attention. Establish a trusting relationship with him, take an interest in his life more often and share your secrets. He must understand that he can fully trust you.
If your child lies to avoid punishment, your parenting methods may be too strict. Don't be too harsh so your teen isn't afraid of you. He must understand that all punishments are not exaggerated, but just.
Be sincere and honest with your children, talk to them more, and they will always tell you only the truth.
