The transitional age of a child is a real test. He changes not only physically, but also psychologically, and sometimes he gets completely entangled in himself and becomes uncontrollable. But not only adolescents themselves, but also their parents experience difficulties in this regard. Correct behavior during this period is the key to strong family relationships.
Instructions
Step 1
Be patient. Constantly raising your voice, scandals and screams in the house will not become the atmosphere that a difficult teenager needs. You will have to show attention, care and patience in your relationship with your child. Do not take to heart any act that seems wrong to you. If you lose patience, you risk losing your child.
Step 2
Give up strict control. The desire to know about every step of your child is understandable, especially in a transitional age, when there are so many temptations around. But there is a certain boundary, crossing which you will violate the personal space of a teenager, which will affect your relationship. You will undermine his trust if, for example, you start reading his correspondence on your phone or computer. The only way to follow his life without causing rejection is communication. Make contact, become his friend, and then information about the social circle and ways of spending time will be in your hands without much effort.
Step 3
Be firm at the right moments. Sometimes you still have to become a strict parent. So, if your child began to actively violate the generally accepted rules in social life, you need to take decisive measures. The same goes for ignoring the rules in your home. Your authority must be unshakable, otherwise respect and obedience will be lost forever.
Step 4
Give your child some degree of freedom. It should be expressed in independent decision-making on issues in which it can be allowed. By prohibiting any inclinations towards independence, you show disrespect and rejection of the teenager as a person. It is this moment that can create a wall between you. At the same time, it is important to observe the line: excessive guardianship, as well as an excess of freedom, will become destructive.
Step 5
The desire to impose your way of thinking and lifestyle will not lead to anything good. A child's value system may be fundamentally different from yours, but this is far from a reason to classify him as a difficult teenager and strive to suppress any independence. Let him become who he wants, do not suppress the manifestation of personality. At the stage of its formation, this can lead to isolation and even aggression.
