Mother and father are the two dearest and closest people in parent-child relationships. Only in the family circle can a person fully share problems, boast of victories or talk about their defeats. But for such a warm relationship to take place, you need to properly raise your son or daughter from the very beginning. How to avoid difficulties in communicating with your child? How to maintain a warm relationship between parent and baby at any age?
How does a modern child see mom and dad? If you ask this question directly to a child, you can get approximately the following answer: “Mom is a person who is always there. She feeds, washes, cleans up, plays, bakes, buys sweets, educates. Moreover, it performs several actions at the same time without any problems.
How does a baby see dad? The complete opposite of my mom. Dad is never at home, he is always at work, earns money, comes late and scolds when you do something wrong. And dad's life at home is reduced to rest: reading newspapers and watching football. The father is not perceived as a friend, friend, dear person. This is someone coming, performing punitive functions.
The child does not always understand that mom and dad are equal parents, and the point is not only that dad is at work all the time. The attitude of the father to the upbringing of the child in the first years of life also plays a role here. Often, young dads answer the question about their role in raising kids like this: “Let him grow up a little, we’ll go to the garage with him to fix the car, play football or hockey, but for now let mom and grandmothers do it”.
The child feels and understands this. In the future, this will certainly affect the relationship of an adult child with a father. Lack of communication in infancy always leads to cooler communication in adolescence, the child does not develop attachment to the dad, there are difficulties in communication and mutual understanding. And no joint trip to the garage or to football will radically change the situation.
Unfortunately, our mentality does not include the manifestation of paternal affection towards the baby. It is very rare to see dad not just walking next to the child down the street, but holding him on his knees, drawing together or admiring the first child's victories. That makes dad more amazing at the matinee in kindergarten. Even if the holiday takes place on a day off, then it is difficult to drag the father there.
It's one thing when the reason for this is dad's need to earn money, and the only way out is to disappear at work from morning to evening. This is an objective reality from which there is no escape. Although even such fathers should find time for their loved ones. Indeed, in such a family, the mother is forced to perform the functions of a parent for two, which means it is doubly difficult for her. But there is also another case. When a parent thinks that it is unmanly and beneath manhood to lisp with his baby.
Choosing exactly how you will raise your baby and how much time to devote to him from childhood, remember that this will definitely affect your relationship with your child in the future.
