The crisis of relations is one of the main problems of modern society. More than half of marriages break up, a happy union of two is a rarity. Why is this happening? Have people become different? Have you forgotten how to build relationships? Changed the idea of what a relationship should be? People do not know and do not understand themselves and others?
All this takes place, but most of all people make mistakes at the stage of choosing a life partner. Initially, the wrong choice makes the relationship hopeless and inevitably leads to a sad ending.
What attracts today's young people to each other? Good looks, good social prospects, financial security? Few people are able to discern behind these external attributes of a person, his individual characteristics and moral and moral content.
People often tend to seem better than they really are, especially at the stage of dating and starting a new relationship. They can literally surpass themselves by incorporating their acting talent. But after all, it is impossible to portray not yourself all your life. Sooner or later, the masks fall off, and a person appears in all his splendor, as he is. At this moment, the partners begin to understand that they do not know each other at all. And conflicts and disagreements begin.
How can you avoid such problems? In order not to accumulate a load of resentments and disappointments from unfulfilled hopes in the future, not to regret the wasted time.
Of course, it is very important not to rush to make a choice and be attentive to your partner, pay attention to his actions, ask the question: why does a person act in this way and not otherwise? This will help to better understand his core values, which is really important to him.
Of course, you need to understand the motives for creating relationships, both your own and your potential partner. Are you willing to work on relationships every day, or is each one seeking only to satisfy their needs at the expense of the other? The need to be needed by someone, a sense of duty, fear of loneliness, the desire to solve their financial problems or the desire to “save” a partner are not favorable motives for creating a harmonious union. At this stage, it is important to have the courage to honestly admit to yourself and your partner what you really want from the relationship. After all, it is no secret that marriages, which resemble business cooperation rather than a family, are stronger precisely because spouses honestly declare their intentions and do not expect what cannot be.
If love in a relationship is important to you, then it is important to understand one simple truth - not all people have such a talent. In this world, there are enough embittered, cruel and ungrateful people who cannot be “warmed” with their love. They will cynically use you for their own purposes. Therefore, you should not give them such an opportunity, but rather find someone who can reciprocate you.
So, what is necessary for a conscious and correct choice of a partner.
First, knowledge of yourself, your values, needs, desires, aspirations, motives of behavior and a clear idea of how you want to see your union with a worthy person.
Secondly, a good understanding of his potential life partner, what he really is with all his advantages and disadvantages, habits inherited from his parental family. Are you ready to put up with all this all your life, will you have a desire to remake your partner for yourself?
Thirdly, you need to openly coordinate your interests with the interests of your partner, declaring all your expectations in advance, so that later it does not turn out that someone was not ready for something.
And at the same time, it must be remembered that even the right choice of a worthy partner does not negate moral discipline and daily work on oneself in the future.
Happiness to you!
