If morning scandals and tantrums with a child on the doorstep of kindergarten have become your daily ritual, find the reason for this behavior. After all, refusal to attend kindergarten can be caused by a whole list of problems.
Let's start with the simplest: the age of the child. Psychologists advise sending a child to a kindergarten at 4 years old. At three, he is still very attached to his mother. At five, I was already used to the well-established alignment of life without a garden. If circumstances drive you to work, try so that the baby already has an idea of being in a children's team - he attended developmental classes or a part-time group.
The first month or two, the child's morning tantrums are normal. But if there are no further changes, it's time to look for the reason for such persistent dislike. Talk to your caregiver first. Find out how the child behaves in the group during the day. If after you leave, his tears instantly dry up, then this is just a manipulation for mom's attention, no more. But if a child does not play with peers, sits on the sidelines, does not eat, does not sleep well, is in a depressed state - this is already a reason to understand the reasons for this behavior.
Check with the provider if your child has peer conflicts. Sometimes one fight is enough to ruin the mood for a long time. Again, consult with the teacher on how to get out of this situation. Perhaps you need to talk in a trilateral manner and the conflict will be settled.
For some children, their dislike for kindergarten is based on violent attempts to feed the child. If your toddler has problems with eating behavior, notify the nanny and caregiver. Agree that the child will decide for himself whether to eat or not and does not need to be fed from a spoon. Themselves at home, feed breakfast and pick it up from the garden early so that he does not go hungry all day.
Play with your child in kindergarten at home. Place the dolls and animals and simulate the situation. Your child's reaction to it will be an indicator of what is really going on in the group. Pay attention to what new words your baby brought from the garden. If speech has become replete with expressive vocabulary - "stupid", stupid ", etc., there is a reason to look at the attitude of the educator towards children. Start by talking to other moms if they have noticed this behavior in their children. If your suspicions are confirmed, do not hesitate to go up to the teacher and ask head-on which of the children is so expressed. Monitor the reactions of the caregiver and nanny. Whether they will go away from the answer or laugh it off. In this case, go to the manager and first express your complaints orally. You have all the rights to do this. Usually, such a measure is enough for the staff to change their attitude after the conversation, at least for a while.
Are there "non-Sadovka" children? Yes, there are. Not everyone is comfortable in a large team, with unfamiliar adults. Some children experience stress from every trip to the toilet, changing clothes, sleeping together in the bedroom. In this case, parents need to think: do we really need a kindergarten? Maybe at home with a grandmother or a nanny would be better. If mom needs to go to work, you can look for an option to stay in the garden part-time before bed. The contribution of the kindergarten to the socialization of the child is greatly exaggerated. But in terms of the number of acquired nervous disorders, he is the record holder.
