This is a challenging and exciting time for the whole family. How will the child adapt? Will he like it there? Mom and Dad are vying with each other to tell their beloved child how great it is to go to kindergarten, how many children there are to play with, how many new toys. And it seems that he begins to visit the garden with a positive attitude, but suddenly one day he categorically refuses to go there again. What's happening?
Don't be manipulated
If in the morning just before leaving your child threw a tantrum and voiced his reluctance to go to kindergarten, you do not need to follow his lead, feverishly wondering which of the parents can take time off from work or urgently call the grandmother. Find out what caused the refusal. A kid may think that he has a stomach ache, for example. Take a closer look at it. If everything is really all right with him, try to convince the little inventor to leave the house.
Understand the reasons
It is very important to understand the motives of the child's reluctance to attend child care. Try to identify and establish their true source. Specialists in the field of child psychology identify the three most important reasons that can cause a child's negative reaction to kindergarten. It can be:
- fear of few people you know
- lack of friends
- lack of contact with the teacher
Lack of friends
A child in the new conditions not only has to get used to the regime established in the kindergarten and adherence to certain rules of behavior, but also to learn to communicate with children of very different nature and temperament. This is a new experience for a toddler that can be both positive and negative. Ask your heir who he likes to play with more. Try to negotiate with the parents of a friend of your baby and get together for a joint promenade in the park or at a specialized playground for children. So it will be easier for your child to get used to, find a common language with children from the same kindergarten where the baby goes and relieve communication problems.
Lack of rapport with the kindergarten worker
If you notice that the child perceives the teacher in a negative way and is even afraid, try to discuss his fears with the child. Find out if he is being punished too severely there. Talk to a kindergarten worker without emotions or pretensions. Perhaps together you can sort out the problem and improve the relationship between the adult and the child. If all else fails, it is better to change the group.
Be gentle and patient, the baby feels your mood. You are quite capable of helping your beloved child overcome fears and fully integrate into society.
