The process of raising a child can be overshadowed by his disobedience. We teach the child to listen to the parents.
Instructions
Step 1
Selective hearing is inherent in all children. That is, ten parental reminders that it is time to clean the room, they may not take into account, and the child will hear the accidentally dropped phrase about the idea of having a cat and will start asking for this cat. You need to get through to the child somehow.
Step 2
First, understand if the child really hears you. There can be many reasons for "deafness". Perhaps at some point your child was in another room and really did not hear you. Maybe the child is angry with you or upset and therefore does not respond. Talk to your child while you are with him. If the child is busy and there is an opportunity to distract him, call him and ask him to look at you.
Step 3
Always share the information with your child once. Maximum two. This should become a habit, albeit with difficulty. And there is no need to make a tragedy out of the fact that a child, for example, will be late for dinner without your reminders. He will have to eat cooled food alone, but then he will understand that it is better to respond after the first call.
Step 4
Express your thoughts briefly and clearly, especially with regard to prohibitions and instructions. The younger the child, the worse he understands long sentences. And there is no need to be overly polite either - do not complicate communication by this.
Step 5
All family members need to listen to the child. As you are to him, so he is to you: if you do not listen to him, then it is foolish to demand him to listen to you.
Step 6
The screaming and irritation in the parent's voice often offends the child than makes him listen. Moreover, if he does not like what we are trying to force him to do, by shouting and irritating we offend him even more. Speak in a confident but soft voice.
Step 7
Do not say what you cannot do, but after saying do it. The most famous example: a mother, after walking with her child, tries to force him to go home. “That's it, I’m gone,” she tells him, but she doesn’t go anywhere. And you have to be consistent. By being consistent, you will teach your child the same.
Step 8
Often, children are unable to immediately respond to a request or demand. It takes them some time to understand you and form a plan of action in their head. And this does not mean that he did not hear you.
