Often, parents try to develop a child from an early age. They take him to tutors, enroll him in circles and studios, dreaming that the child will be able to get the most out of the classes and become a successful, and possibly famous person. But, in an effort to do "what is best", parents can deprive the child not only of childhood, but also of the opportunity to learn how to manage free time.
Not many parents think that being overloaded with various activities can lead to the fact that they cannot do without the help of a specialist. But even finding time to visit a psychologist can be extremely difficult, because all the days of the child are scheduled by the minute. Parents do not take into account the fact that it is important for children not only to master various skills, knowledge and abilities, but also to learn how to interact with society, feel, love, make friends, know how to act in certain life situations. And this requires free time, which a busy child does not have.
If you ask some parents why you do not give your child the opportunity to do what he wants, then most often in response they will say that if you give the child freedom, he will sit with his computer or phone and spend time uselessly. After all, he does not want to go for a walk, or meet friends, or read books. In fact, he does not do this because he simply did not learn, because he never had free time.
To learn how to manage his free time, the child must develop and know what he really wants, and not his parents. To meet with friends, communicate with them, play games, read books, a child must learn to communicate, which is not inherent in him from birth. By communicating with their peers, the child gradually understands how to manage his time and develops. Playing with toys, he also develops and, if his favorite pastime is taken away from the child at an early age, full development will slow down.
Why does a child need free time
For mental development. It is important to know that mental development occurs through play, which changes with age. If the child is forbidden to play, then mental development will slow down and in adulthood a person will not be able to make decisions quickly, interact with a team or start a business. After all, all these skills are taught through children's games. By depriving the child of this opportunity, the parents deprive him of his development.
For the ability to communicate with other people. This skill is also laid down in a child at an early age and only in contact with other children, in personal interaction with them. Only by playing with each other can children understand how to communicate properly. If a child is deprived of such an opportunity and instead is sent to countless classes, then, of course, he develops mentally and physically, but often does not receive the skills of correct - informal - communication with people. Therefore, in adulthood, such people find it very difficult to find a companion or companion in life, they do not know how to make friends, they do not know how to meet an interesting person, what to talk about when meeting friends (if they ever have such a person). Failure to connect with others can lead to loneliness, depression, and sometimes mental disorders.
For the formation of personality. Creative ideas can only be invented by such a person who has learned to think freely, who had free time to come up with something of his own, and not act according to a template prepared for everyone. But in order to become an individual, you need to learn to choose on your own what you really like. If a child wants to sing, and his parents send him to the sports section, then he is unlikely to be able to further realize himself in what he dreamed of. Gradually, their own desires will be replaced by the desires of their parents and a personality will be formed that will wait for others to offer her something, those who have learned to think, communicate, play and interact with this world.
