The older generation often takes part in the upbringing of children. On the one hand, this is good: both help to parents and connection between generations. On the other hand, the methods and ways of education are sometimes puzzling.
Pros of grandmother's upbringing
- Parents can safely work and build a career, knowing that the child is dressed, fed, and is under the supervision of a loved one.
- The older generation has a lot of life experience. They know how to deal with children.
- Grandparents are not as demanding and strict as parents. They try to accept babies as they are. Often praised. In this connection, the child develops a positive self-esteem.
- Communication with the older generation forms basic moral and moral values in the baby.
- Grandparents make a great contribution to the education of their grandchildren. They read books, tell fairy tales, go to circles, do lessons with them.
Cons of grandmother's upbringing
- Parents and older people often have different views on parenting. And it turns out that the whole week the grandmother uses her methods, and on the weekend mom and dad begin to re-educate. The child in this situation will suffer.
- Selfless love and permissiveness can lead to uncontrollable behavior of the child.
- Grandparents can be very anxious and suspicious. And they can limit the curiosity and activity of the baby. Because of this, he can grow up dependent and passive.
- The old methods of childcare are outdated in many ways. They were replaced by modern "assistants" and gadgets (diapers, baby monitors, etc.). It's hard for the older generation to get used to it.
- Often, modern grandmothers are not old women who want to devote the rest of their lives to their grandchildren. They work, have many hobbies and hobbies, and do not always strive to help with children on a daily basis. Therefore, they try to compensate for their rare attention with pampering and gifts.
To have more pluses
If the methods and methods of upbringing differ from those of grandmothers and grandfathers, you should not make a categorical claim. The views of the older generation are different and this is normal. Try to calmly talk and explain that the main thing in raising a child is the parents. Therefore, their requirements must be taken into account. Develop a common approach. Tell us what educational attitudes are not acceptable.
Don't set too many restrictions. It is important for a grandmother to feel like a “grandmother”, to contribute to the upbringing of the younger generation. Sometimes ask her for advice, it doesn't matter if you use it or not. It will be pleasant to her.
Express your gratitude to grandparents for their help. After all, this is not their duty, but goodwill. Communicate with them respectfully. Never criticize in front of a child.
Let the older generation be your helper, not your rival.
