Many parents face such a situation, when a child grows up completely indecisive. And it is clear that in kindergarten, and even more so in school, such a child will have a very difficult time, not to mention adulthood. Nevertheless, the parents themselves can help the child overcome indecision.
Don't call your child names
Never tell a child that he is a coward, even in a joking manner. Otherwise, it can gain a foothold and undermine self-confidence.
It is better to help your child become bolder by encouraging, for example, by the fact that next time he will definitely succeed.
If you still want to emphasize that the child is scared, do not talk about him, but about his behavior.
Remind you of your successes
When your child doubts himself again, just remind him of a situation where he was able to overcome himself and be a good fellow.
Examples to follow
Look for role models wherever you can: on TV screens, in books, among friends. Children are very fond of stories about other children.
It is important for a child to know that someone was not very courageous like him and was able to change. And, of course, you are the main example for the child.
Down with high expectations
If for parents the main words in upbringing are "he must", then we are talking about the overestimated requirements for the child.
Be more realistic about your expectations and desires. Realizing that he does not correspond to your ideals, the child can completely lose faith in himself.
Love is not measured
Indecision goes hand in hand with a sense of insignificance for parents. Doubts arise when dad and mom love for something. For example, for good grades.
In no case should you tell your child that you will not love him if he misbehaves. There is nothing worse than these words for a child.
A son or daughter should feel that they have the right to make a mistake and their own opinion, without fear of losing your love.
Discuss the possibilities
In no case do not scold or reproach the baby for indecision. Feelings of guilt are not helpful in this situation. In a relaxed atmosphere, discuss options for how to proceed.
Let the child express his opinion first, and then you will help him. Choose the best options during the conversation. And then the next time the child will act differently.
