There is a saying: "He who has changed once, will continue to change." However, psychologists believe that this is not entirely true. In fact, there are not so many pathological male traitors. In the overwhelming majority of cases, the partner's approach to the side is nothing more than his reaction to any circumstances within interpersonal relationships.
Family psychologists and sexologists deal with such a problem as infidelity quite often. And, of course, experts have conducted many studies and surveys on this topic. What do psychologists usually answer to their patients who cheated on their wives? Why do men cheat on their girlfriends?
Perseverance of other women
According to many men, very often cheating happens for this very reason. Some women can be extremely persistent in looking for a second half or a sexual partner. Often a man cannot refuse such a lady and cheats on his wife with her, sometimes even just to get rid of her as quickly as possible.
Men are believed to be naturally polygamous. Many women believe that if they do not constantly control their partner, he will change right and left. However, this is not the case. Most men, however, remain faithful to their wife without much difficulty, not feeling the desire to go to the side. In a strong marriage, where mutual understanding reigns, accidental betrayal of the husband often occurs only because of the persistence of the other woman.
Desire to assert yourself
Many representatives of the stronger sex confessed to psychologists that they had changed their second half precisely because of the desire to look more masculine, charismatic and fulfilled. That is, we took this step in order to assert ourselves.
For this reason, as a rule, only men who have achieved little in life are cheating on their wives. Such representatives of the stronger sex can one day indulge their vanity by having a mistress, even if they are already in a very long-term relationship with their wife or girlfriend.
Busy wife
Some men, according to them, have got a mistress only because they do not have the opportunity to spend as much time with their wife in the bedroom as they would like. The reason in this case may be the spouse's busy work schedule, a huge amount of housework, the need to look after the children, etc.
In this case, a man begins to think that he is completely unnecessary for his second half and has become almost "invisible" for her. Most often, in such a situation, a man first tries to tell his wife about his feelings about this. Having received in response something like “I don’t have time for this…”, he simply goes to the side in order to finally feel needed.
Revenge for treason or insult
Quite often, men cheat on their partner if she herself is caught flirting or even something more serious. In some cases, husbands may forgive their wives for this behavior. However, the resentment with them usually remains for a long time in the future.
The same applies when the wife constantly insults or humiliates her husband. Perhaps a man will endure resentment from his second half for some time. However, sooner or later he will definitely start looking for that woman who will love and respect him.
Love has passed …
Sometimes it happens that after a whirlwind romance, partners simply begin to gradually bore each other. The old feelings go away, and the husband and wife live together only out of habit. Such situations also very often become the reason that a man begins to cheat.
In fact, in this case, going to the side cannot even be considered treason itself. After all, a man whose relationship with an old partner has come to naught has every right to fall in love with another woman again and become happy again.
Having a close friend cheating on his wife
Women are known to be very fond of gossiping. However, this disadvantage is inherent in many men. Representatives of the stronger sex also often share various kinds of news with each other, including about their wives and girlfriends.
And sometimes it happens that a man simply succumbs to the influence of his friend, who often cheats on his wife and considers such behavior to be the norm. Usually, such representatives of the stronger sex in their stories slightly exaggerate their exploits and overly positively describe their adventures on the side.
The wife has grown old and disliked
Unfortunately, age-related changes in the appearance of women are much more susceptible to men. Over time, your skin may become less smooth, your hair may look shiny, and your figure may become slimmer.
Of course, if the relationship in the family is warm and strong, the man, most likely, will not pay attention to such trifles. After all, next to him is still his beloved woman, with whom he lived for many years and who, possibly, gave birth to his children. Otherwise, the man will begin to think that he deserves more, and will start a young mistress.
