Misalliance, unequal marriage, cold calculation - society begins to come to terms with the things that frightened young women without dowry for a long time.
With what words does the story about Cinderella end? That's the end of the fairy tale. Jokes aside, but marriage has little to do with both a sweet love story and a whirlwind romance, which the spouses sometimes do not suspect.
Already in the first year after the wedding, resentments and quarrels begin, the reasons for which are many. But one of the most common problems of newlyweds is the unsettled life, including the lack of material resources. Hence the depressing statistics of divorces - in the first 4 years, up to 40% of couples break up.
The same statistics show that marriages of convenience are more durable and families are happier.
What is a marriage of convenience
Many people associate the expression "marriage of convenience" with Pukirev's painting "Unequal marriage", which is partly justified. Society does not welcome commercialism in an act that is “in heaven”.
Nevertheless, educated, rational-minded young people are no longer in a hurry to formalize relationships just because they are sympathetic to each other. When creating a family, it is not so much the relationship that is considered as the presence of a stable material base. And this is not cynicism, but a real concern for future offspring, which cannot be called anything other than calculation.
If the spouses have a big age difference
The age difference between the spouses has not scared anyone for a long time, although it is the reason for the gossip of idle neighbors.
However, there is a problem. A young girl, marrying a man much older than herself, should realize that, most likely, he already had a family and, perhaps, not the only one.
In this regard, it is necessary to understand that he has some material obligations to support children from past marriages. A decent person will not be limited to alimony, and will help already grown children and, especially, grandchildren.
Otherwise, his decency is questioned, as well as a happy married life with such a person.
If an adult has not yet been in a marriage relationship, then the young wife should keep in mind that the habits of an inveterate bachelor can become a hindrance in everyday life.
In a situation where the wife is much older than her husband, a different problem arises. It is quite possible that the young man sincerely inflamed with feelings for an adult, accomplished woman, which, by the way, he will have to regularly prove to her, to himself and to those around him, but in this case he will have to accept that the lion's share of the family budget will go to spa salons, perfumes and cosmetics.
Naturally, if the family budget is comparable to the budget of show business stars, then only relationships will become a solid support for family happiness.
