It all started like a fairy tale: they met, felt interest in each other, began to communicate, meet. They went to bed and fell asleep only thinking about each other, until they realized that we had to go through this life together, hand in hand. Finally, the very happy moment of the wedding came, followed by an unforgettable honeymoon. Soon after, another joy came to their cozy world: they learned that they would become parents.
They feel good together, they understand each other perfectly, they have a wonderful baby growing up. Everything is permeated with happiness. Everything is going as it should. But after a while, something in the relationship disappears, disappears. There are no more old emotions, and frightening thoughts begin to come to mind: what if this is no longer love, but just a habit?
Why do relationships become a habit?
It is not love that leaves the relationship, romance leaves, and this happens in the overwhelming majority of cases. Why is this happening? The fact is that romance is alive and does not require artificial support, while loving people still have where to move and what to strive for in terms of rapprochement with each other. After the creation of a family and the appearance of children in their subconsciousness, this goal is already beginning to be considered as achieved, and the internal vector changes its direction from building relationships to other goals: a career, raising children, increasing material wealth, etc. Interest in each other is gradually fading away, and only sometimes some pleasant moments can warm it up again, but only for a while.
In principle, the loss of romance can be prevented, and it is easier than returning it later. To do this, from the very beginning, you need to be prepared for the fact that relationships are work, and without the application of efforts directed at them, all this euphoric mood will sooner or later decline, the holidays will be replaced by everyday routine, and everyday issues will begin to supplant thoughts about each other. To prevent this, you need to avoid "Groundhog Day", make everyday life varied, try to constantly surprise each other and give as many positive emotions as possible to your partner.
If the moment is missed, the romance is already gone, and it becomes clear that this is an indisputable fact, then for its return you can resort to advice from psychological and women's magazines, for example, have a dinner in an intimate setting, relax together in nature, go on vacation. All this sounds great, but the pitfall lies in the following: perhaps only one of the partners wants to re-fill the relationship with notes of romance, while the other is happy with everything, and he does not even notice that something is going wrong in their pair. Suppose a wife does a new hairstyle, puts on a seductive peignoir, covers dinner by candlelight, and this will not cause anything to the husband who comes home except internal irritation and the feeling that something is being imposed on him.
How to make your relationship romantic again?
Before you start using women's tricks and putting into practice various tips, you should work on yourself and your attitude towards your husband and the current situation:
• Be understanding. If he did not appreciate your steps towards rapprochement, then this does not mean that he no longer loves you. Perhaps your spouse's head is simply completely full of thoughts about work, especially if he is not doing something there or there are some problems.
• Even if, because of the coldness of your husband and the resulting grievances, it is still difficult for you to understand him internally and sincerely imbued with his situation, then at least do not show your displeasure, do not be capricious, do not make claims and do not beg for attention. Let your spouse know that you value and support their presence in your life.
When you feel that you are successful and that your spouse becomes more open and disposed towards you, then there are some other things you can try:
1) Play together, fool around like children, not thinking about anything. It will relax and bring you closer.
2) Do not ignore role-playing games that will help reawaken and develop sensuality in your relationship. This can also include making love outside the home: you can rent a hotel room, go to the country house, entrusting the care of children to friends or parents, there are many options - there would be a desire.
3) Flirt with your husband. Let it seem unnatural at first after many years together, but you will gradually get a taste, and he will certainly appreciate it. Let your man feel like a hunter.
4) Be direct and surprise him. For example, leave a confession note or a romantic invitation among his business papers and documents.
5) It is very important to be always sincere and do everything for your husband and for the relationship from the heart.
In addition, you need to constantly devote time to self-development and work on yourself, to become better, wiser, kinder, deeper, more interesting. If people are books, then you need to write your own faster than your husband can read it, so that he can always discover something new in you.
