The departure of a man, a father from a family is always a hard blow for a woman, but children take it especially hard. In their minds, the world is literally breaking into two halves. One is the one with dad, happy or not, but with dad. And the other - without him: there is no stability, security, future in it. Seeing how the children suffer, the woman often decides to return her father to the family.
Instructions
Step 1
Analyze the situation and your life together. Maybe you did not notice some important things, his inner state, problems in your relationship. Sometimes women make too many claims to their husbands, criticize him, often take the initiative inadequately. As a result, a man feels underestimated and unfulfilled.
Step 2
Keep in mind that your appearance plays an important role. Perhaps you did not pay attention to him at all during household chores. So, you need to put yourself in order.
Step 3
Understand that both are always to blame for the breakup. After analyzing all the facts, you can understand the main thing: find out the true reason for leaving and decide if you need this particular man. Should I return it to you and not to the children?
Step 4
Talk to your husband about how your breakup with him does not mean he is leaving the children. That he should, in spite of everything, communicate with them, participate in their life and upbringing. But do not demonstrate a victim position. Be wise, find the strength in yourself for such a conversation, choose the right and necessary words for this.
Step 5
Maintain father-child bonds, daddy children-grandparents, children-other paternal relatives. Encourage the children to spend more time with their father and relatives on his side. Buy, for example, tickets for grandmother, grandfather and children to the theater, circus, let the children live in the summer at the dacha of their husband's parents. Come and visit them yourself several times over the summer. Let your husband feel how important he and his parents are to you and your children. And his relatives will be positively disposed towards you, and, therefore, will be able to contribute to the restoration of the family.
Step 6
Invite your husband to children's birthdays. At the time when he is visiting you, try to keep calm, level, affable. Meet your husband in a good mood, wearing clothes that suit you especially. Cook the dishes that he has always enjoyed during the years of your life together.
Step 7
Ask your husband to go out with the kids for the weekend. Seek help with parenting, but don't turn it into everyday torture.
Step 8
Take care of yourself, your inner world. Let him again feel that you are an interesting, beautiful woman and a good mother. She will understand how wonderful your children are. And, perhaps, he will want to return to the family.
