Sometimes you can meet happy couples who have lived together for more than a dozen years, despite the fact that they have such seemingly insurmountable differences. However, at the same time, millions of people around the world make wrong choices every day, leading to divorce and trauma. There are a number of reasons why people enter into wrong marriages, resulting in emotional emptiness and disappointment.
The person has not yet fully understood himself
Many people simply do not know what kind of person they want to see next to them. It turns out that something vague like "funny", "kind", "cute". This is not enough to start building really strong relationships.
The task of a person who is looking for a partner is to understand himself. It is necessary to comprehend the essence of your nerves and understand what type of people are able to smooth them out, and who, on the contrary, aggravate them.
People without flaws simply do not exist in nature, so you need to choose for yourself a person with an optimal set of negative qualities.
Wrong reasons for marriage
It is natural for a person to be delusional, especially when one really wants to. When meeting a potential partner for life, many people think that they know everything about him. However, joint viewing of family photos and meeting his relatives is not enough to understand the full depth of human feelings. A person often perceives the illusion of being prepared for marriage as truth and draws reality at his own discretion. Non-existent character traits and actions are attributed to a potential partner.
Often the reason for getting married can be a person's unwillingness to be alone. In this state, it is difficult to choose the right partner and build a long-term relationship.
Previously, mankind approached marriage extremely rationally. Parents of potential newlyweds met and built the future of their children. Marriage was then rarely associated with love and happiness. Now the situation looks somewhat different: in addition to comfort and financial well-being, you also need to be happy and in love, and it can be extremely difficult to combine all this, therefore, feelings and instincts often become the main criterion for choosing a partner in the modern world.
At the time of marriages of convenience, the following criteria were taken into account: how much dowry is given for the bride, what kind of families do the spouses come from and how close the newlyweds are in terms of cultural indicators. Now everything began to look different. A romantic union, which is based only on feelings, ends when falling in love passes.
Unjustified hopes
People are desperate to be happy all the time. They have high emotional demands on marriage and are extremely frustrated when their illusions begin to collapse. When a couple decides to get married, both of them hope that the euphoria will last forever, but, unfortunately, sobering comes, and problems begin.
Each person has examples of unsuccessful families, however, almost everyone who marries are sure that in no case will they repeat other people's mistakes, but time passes and history repeats itself.
Some decide to get married because they are tired of unsuccessful romances and love experiences. For them, the family is a quiet haven, free from violent emotions. However, there is not much less excitement in the family than in the life of a single person.
You should not marry based on cold calculation. Also dangerous is a romantic union that relies only on feelings. First of all, you need to understand yourself and try to find a middle ground.
