Barely born, every man automatically becomes a must. He must not cry, must obey, must yield and must be a real man. And, having matured, he also becomes and owes something to women. But does he really have to do something?
If you interview all the women of our vast country, you can get an endless list of what a man owes. This list includes giving gifts, making money and spending it on a woman, remembering all important dates, taking care of your woman and family, providing for your family, helping parents, relatives, raising children, obeying women, being faithful, honest, loyal, protecting a woman, make her happy, pay attention to everyone, and more. One gets the impression that a man owes everything and everyone.
What does a man owe by law?
The fact that a man should, like any citizen of the Russian Federation, is spelled out in the Constitution. And this list is not that long. The duties of a man include: comply with the Constitution and laws of the Russian Federation, respect the rights and freedoms of other people, take care of children and disabled parents, get an education (finish the 9th grade), protect nature, monuments, pay taxes and serve in the army. Everything else is a matter of man's conscience and desire.
If a man of his own free will married a woman, then the Family Code of the Russian Federation comes into play, according to which all responsibilities for the maintenance and upbringing of children, as well as for the material support of the family, equally fall on both spouses. Thus, in marriage, the rights of spouses are based on the principle of complete equality between a woman and a man. And if a woman is sure that a man should fully provide for her and the common children, then she is deeply mistaken.
Separately, it is worth mentioning the case "the father is not the one who gave the seed, but who raised the child" and "a real man is someone else's children for joy, but a fool and his own as a burden." If a man voluntarily decided to take on the responsibility of maintaining and raising a woman's child, then he will do this to the best of his ability. If a man voluntarily decided to officially adopt a woman's child from a previous marriage, then this relationship will be regulated by law.
Men's responsibility
On various forums and on social networks, one can more and more often find statements by women that “today's men have shrunk” and are not able to take responsibility and provide for their families. In fact, the difference between the current generation and the previous generation is obvious. Before the war, the man himself was sure that he should. The post-war generation of men was brought up in the harsh conditions of economic recovery. Then children from an early age were instilled with the concept of responsibility.
Today's men are a generation of serene childhood. Parents, who experienced all the hardships of the post-war period, tried to provide their children with all the best, creating a happy, carefree childhood for them. Therefore, the current generation is significantly different in their views on life. It is also worth noting that the percentage of boys raised by single mothers increased every year. Such men often do not have an idea of what a family is, since there was no model of a prosperous family in front of their eyes. As a result, there are now more and more men who "owe nothing to anyone."
And this is logical, since among modern women there are more and more women who owe nothing to anyone and do not owe anything.
But this does not mean that the current generation is bad. It's just different.
What should women do?
In the modern world, a woman should always rely on herself and her strength. There are more and more men among men who do not want to take responsibility. If earlier most 30-year-old men were able to support themselves and their families, now there are fewer and fewer of them. Therefore, a woman should not give up the opportunity to get an education and work experience before getting married and having a child. In the future, this will become her safety cushion, because it will be much easier for a competent specialist with work experience to provide for herself in the event of a divorce.
But if a woman sees the meaning of her life in the family, in raising children, then when choosing a life partner, she needs to pay attention to the parents of the chosen one. If the father of the future spouse adhered to traditional views on relationships, then with a high probability he raised his son in a similar way.
