A serious illness is a test not only for the patient himself, but for the whole family. Doctors often do not stand on ceremony with patients, reporting the diagnosis immediately. It is very difficult for the sick person to cope with this, but it is even more difficult to inform the family about it.
Diseases are of different severity, curable and not, sexually transmitted or blood-borne. If your disease is not contagious, then you can keep silent about it, otherwise you are simply obliged to inform your loved ones about your disease in order to protect them from danger.
Venereal diseases
It would be a mistake to assume that all sexually transmitted diseases are sexually transmitted, some of them can spread through other fluids of the human body - saliva, urine, blood. After learning about the diagnosis, the first thing you should do is to protect others from getting too close to you.
The most difficult thing is to inform your spouse or your boyfriend about a sexually transmitted disease, because if he is confident in himself, he will certainly suspect you of treason. It will be impossible for him to prove that you did not have extraneous connections, but became infected during the treatment of a tooth, visiting the pool or drinking tea from an unwashed cup in a cafe. But you will have to report this disease, even at the cost of breaking off relations. The disease is a danger to your loved one, he too must be treated.
It is best to start a conversation from afar so as not to cause severe mental pain. You can ask about the health of the chosen one. It is best to structure the conversation in such a way that your loved one himself offers to take tests. For example, say that you read about an outbreak in your area. Describe in detail how the disease can be contracted. Share with him your suspicions that you yourself are sick. If your spouse / boyfriend does not offer to get tested, then do it yourself.
In case of betrayal, you will have to admit it and, most likely, part with your loved one. If you cannot tell him about it in the eyes, then write a letter. Tell us about the circumstances and when the infection could have occurred, strongly advise you to go to the doctor and get tested.
Hepatitis C and HIV
You need to know that hepatitis and HIV are transmitted through blood. During sexual intercourse, if there was no mechanical damage accompanied by the release of blood, these diseases are not transmitted, so that your loved ones are relatively safe. However, no one can say with certainty when exactly you became infected and whether your disease was congenital. In any case, you need to hint your relatives so that they donate blood for tests.
Before you say that you are sick, think carefully about when and how you might have been infected. It's not as difficult as it sounds. Most often, infection occurs during medical procedures, when you treat your teeth, donate blood for tests or during an injection.
Start a conversation from afar. Give an example of famous people who, with HIV or hepatitis, live and live well. Complain that no one is immune from this. Look at the reaction of your family. If they clutched at their hearts in horror that such terrible diseases exist, postpone the conversation, but be sure to return to it from time to time, convincing them that it is quite possible to live with such diseases if you adhere to certain safety measures. This must be repeated until your relatives themselves understand that, although terrible, these diseases are not fatal.
When you see that others are ready to accept information about your illness, you need to tactfully communicate it. For example, start like this: “I recently wanted to become a donor, but there I had to be tested for hepatitis C and HIV. When I passed the analysis, they said that I had a positive reaction. Therefore, you need to donate blood for a more thorough examination."
Look at the reaction of your family. If the reaction is too emotional, you see that they are not ready to accept the news of your illness, you should not say right away that the diagnosis has already been made. Give them time to get used to the idea that you might be sick. Tell them you have been tested again. During this time, try to prepare the family for the diagnosis to be confirmed.
To protect your loved ones from danger, watch yourself. Do not share your manicure supplies, hairbrush, toothbrush, towel, clothing, etc. If before that you did not have such habits, so as not to arouse suspicion, get yourself two sets of all - one for personal use, and the second "general".
Crayfish
Oncology is also treated, depending on the stage at which it was found, but it is not contagious. Therefore, if you see that your family cannot accept your illness, do not tell them about it.
For any illness, you need support. If you cannot get it from your loved ones, contact a mental health center for patients like you. There you will meet other people living with similar ailments with whom you can share your experiences.
