We all, of course, understand with the mind that the human body is perishable, and sooner or later we will die, but how hard it is to worry about friends and relatives who left us, even those of them who were sick for a long time or were already very old. The death of a loved one becomes even more difficult, which happened suddenly, when we remain in this life, without ending the dispute, without uttering the words of love and apology that we wanted to say to him, but did not have time. The death of a loved one can be a aching pain for life.
Instructions
Step 1
In the first days, when the grief is especially strong, do not drink any drugs to "come to your senses", the temporary shutdown of clear consciousness is provided by nature, allowing a person to avoid even greater psychological trauma. If your participation in the funeral ritual is necessary, then this will take you out of the temporary "stupor", because funeral rites were invented for the surviving, living people. These chores help a person to get together and allow them to mobilize physical strength to help mental suffering.
Step 2
Often a person after the death of a loved one, there is a feeling of guilt. It can appear even in someone who is actually not guilty of any side, just death is associated with negative, therefore it is reflected in negative emotions. Analyze, perhaps, you are not guilty of anything in front of the departed person and stop punishing yourself, aggravating the mental trauma from his death.
Step 3
If you are a believer, then go to church, talk to the priest. He sees death quite often, maybe he will find words of consolation for you too. Atheists, too, should not be isolated. Talk to a friend or family, remember all the good things that connected you with the deceased. Think about how he would react in life to the fact that you are so harassing yourself.
Step 4
A great moral consolation for some is the continuation of jointly started cases. What could be a better memory and monument to a departed friend than completing the work that he did not manage to finish?
Step 5
Try to keep yourself in control, do not get lost on relatives and friends who do not deserve a bad attitude towards themselves. Such internal control is work on oneself, which will allow one to collect and more easily endure this irreplaceable loss.
Step 6
If you cannot forget about your loss after enough time, then it may make sense to contact a psychological service or an appropriate specialist who will help you return to normal life.
