When Cupid's arrow hits the target, thoughts about a loved one haunt, everything falls out of hand, you just want to dream and at least slightly muffle the exciting heartbeat in anticipation of a meeting. But is it possible to learn not to think about a loved one if the feeling is not mutual? Let's consider both situations.
Instructions
Step 1
It's natural to think about a loved one. For some, these thoughts act as a force that propels lovers not only to topple mountains, but also to prepare for important meetings, write reports and other daily work. But most people are unable to get down to business if their thoughts are occupied by something completely different. Make a list for yourself and start with a nice point. You will not even notice how you go to work with your head. The benefits of this are very large. You are inspired, so now many things are much easier to accomplish: feelings of fear, self-doubt become dulled or disappear altogether. Bottom line: you will not only complete all the tasks on time, but also while away the time of the desired meeting with your beloved.
Step 2
When there is no reciprocity, perhaps the best cure for unrequited love is time. But you can help yourself to distract yourself from unnecessary thoughts. First, try to forgive someone who will never be with you again. Make sure that nothing reminds you of this person: throw away clothes or even gifts, photographs, notes, toothbrush, etc. Ask loved ones not to remind you of him (her) under any circumstances. Do not cling to the "anchors" left by your past: do not go to your favorite cafes, delete "your" tunes and films, change the perfume that he (she) liked so much.
Step 3
As in the first case, work will help you in this difficult period of time. But do not forget that now you have a lot of time for your personal life. Change something in your appearance or wardrobe, buy some new thing into your house, even if it is unnecessary, and make it a symbol of your new life. When frowning thoughts come to your mind again, look at this object and remember that the page has already been turned.
Step 4
Don't stop there. Now you just need positive emotions. Identify what gives you little joy, and allow yourself to do so at least once a week. Get more physical, find a new hobby, and don't forget to socialize. If your thoughts are busy with something fresh that really interests you, then there is simply no place for "old" reflections.
