Life in a state of eternal love is not as rosy as it might seem. It looks more like a vicious circle. All new and new chosen ones and darlings merge into a continuous circulation of faces, each new feeling seems to you stronger than the previous one, and they never get a continuation of the relationship, bringing only sadness and drawing you into the search for new impressions. You cannot forbid yourself to love, but you can stop falling in love endlessly.
Instructions
Step 1
Analyze all your past loves, try to understand what exactly you get from them. Perhaps this is a feeling of lightness, a creative upsurge - in this case, think about what else, besides a romantic infatuation, can give you these sensations. Perhaps you just do not give vent to your own strengths and emotions. Put them in a new direction - do something useful, like sports, art, dancing. Remember that it is impossible to be on top of an emotional outburst all the time - sooner or later the attraction either weakens, or is replaced by a deeper feeling, or it is exhausting and leads to nervous exhaustion.
Step 2
If falling in love gives you a feeling of security, support, you will need to look for a source of warmth and peace in yourself - otherwise, you will forever put your life in dependence on other people. If you yourself do not accept yourself and are inattentive to your own true desires and motives, no person is able to give you this attention and acceptance. Lack of love does not mean absolute loneliness.
Step 3
Try to figure out what exactly attracted you to your chosen one or chosen one. Perhaps it will be the same thing - a certain character, an extraordinary hobby, a similarity of interests. Ask yourself if you take admiration for a bright personality or the joy of communicating with a like-minded person for falling in love, what traits of your own character make you seek rapprochement with people of a certain kind.
Step 4
Look at things soberly. Do not idealize the person you are in love with, even try to specifically look for flaws in him. The real person will be very different from the image created by your fantasy. Try to be more critical of your own feelings. Resist the temptation to immediately switch from the object of love that disappointed you to the search for a new and better - there are no ideal people, and sooner or later you will notice something unpleasant for you in everyone. Consider whether you are ready to spend your whole life searching for an unattainable ideal, which, strictly speaking, you are not yourself.
