Before you try to build a serious relationship with your lover, you need to think very carefully: do you really need it, or are you simply overwhelmed by emotions that should be curbed in time.
Instructions
Step 1
Inflamed with feelings for a lover is very simple. The romance of secret meetings, rare dates, accompanied by an ardent passion, create the illusion of an ideal relationship. However, you should not rush into the pool headlong and fall in love seriously. Remember that living together is very different from rare dates. The person may turn out to be completely different from what you invented for yourself. He will throw socks around, smoke in bed, and demand new meals every day. Consider this before falling in love seriously.
Step 2
If you both have families, then falling in love with a secret friend is all the more not worth it. Think about how much of a blow the news of your meetings will be if a vicious connection is revealed. And this will definitely happen if you let your emotions run wild. The change in mood will not go unnoticed in your family. You will be punctured in something, and the secret will become apparent. This will entail serious family problems, up to and including divorce. Think about whether you are ready to completely change your own life, the life of your children and your spouse. After all, it will most likely not be possible to restore the marriage.
Step 3
If you feel like you are falling in love, try to find negative traits in your partner. Watch him during meetings. Maybe he is picking his nose or saying "RING." Now it seems funny and not annoying at all. And later, when the passion passes, it will drive you out of yourself. Before falling in love, look at the person meticulously, as if you are choosing your future husband. You can even honestly describe on the sheet on the one hand negative, and on the other - positive qualities. Then you will immediately understand whether this person is worth your closer attention.
Step 4
Do an experiment. Tell your lover that you want to leave the family and invite the spouses to open up. You will see a reaction. Most likely, the person will simply disappear from your field of vision, and your crush will disappear before it even starts.
