The ensuing friendship or love pushes people to the desire to become as close as possible to the subject of their sympathy. And feelings sometimes do not allow to evaluate a person objectively. In order not to regret the day of your acquaintance in the future, try to get to know your friend better.
Instructions
Step 1
Try to listen more than talk. It will be good if you start a conversation on a topic that interests you and wait for the interlocutor to join the conversation. Unfortunately, most people prefer to speak. Therefore, your interest will help the person to relax and, possibly, become more outspoken. If you do not know the interlocutor very well, but are only trying to find a common language, do not ask very personal questions, be tactful.
Step 2
Visit the person. External habits and hobbies can be far-fetched, because people often chase fashion or try to imitate their peers. But home decoration, especially if a person lives alone, can tell a lot about his character. Pay attention to the environment itself and to various little things. Note that perfect order or a terrible mess does not at all characterize a person from a bad or a good side. Remember, circumstances are different: a person could simply not have time to clean up or cleaned up just before your arrival - so do not jump to conclusions.
Step 3
Spend as much time with the person as possible. To properly understand the character of a friend, you must rely not only on words, but also on actions. Observe how the person behaves in non-standard situations, try to identify weaknesses and fears. Find out more about his enemies, figure out why this or that conflict arose. This will give you the opportunity to understand how you should not behave with someone who interests you.
Step 4
Chat with your friend's friends and family. Perhaps his attitude towards loved ones is fundamentally different from how you feel about yourself. With the emerging love or friendship, there is every chance of becoming truly close, and you should estimate in advance what awaits you in the future. Try to see the person you are interested in from different angles and be objective. Well, sincere attention and participation will most likely bring you closer to each other.
